Is this ring cursed?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you take this ring?
    Hell no - it's cursed! : (16 votes)
    14 %
    Hell yes - it's free and beautiful! : (81 votes)
    70 %
    Other - tell me below : (18 votes)
    16 %
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I don’t think it’s cursed. I would probably want to pick a different setting for the diamonds so I could really feel like it was my ring.

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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    There is no such thing as “curse” or “bad juju.” It’s just stuff people make up in their heads. Be rational about this, will you ever get a chance to have a ring like this again? It sounds incredible, I’d honestly judge someone who DIDN’T take it due to some silly superstition.

    As for the money part, I figure she’s probably considered that angle herself way before she offered it to you, so if she doesn’t want it, or the money from it… I think this is definitely a stroke of excellent luck for you!!

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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

    I don’t think it’s cursed, but I like that you’re thinking about your future sister in law’s kids and their future. If the ring is worth anything near what you think it’s worth, it could really make a difference to them. I would mention that area of concern to her before accepting it

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    Worker bee

    I understand being nervous about bad energy attached to a ring but I think that because it was offered with love and good intentions you should be good to go.

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    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would take the ring and then get the diamonds set in another setting, even if it’s something similar it will feel like you picked it out together rather than getting a “hand me down” – not that there’s anything wrong with that (Seinfeld)

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    3408 posts
    Sugar bee

    She’s a grown woman, I hardly think that she would have offered you the ring without first thinking about it. Questioning her decision seems rude and ungrateful to me.

    Perhaps your FI is going to buy it off her at a very discounted rate? Just because it is worth $20 grad doesn’t mean that she would get anywhere close to that if she were to resell it. 

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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I wouldn’t, not because I think it’s cursed. But because as you said she could sell it and use it to help her and her family out financially. If it were me, I’d want her to sell it.

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    Bumble bee

    I’m betting her ring was APPRAISED at 20 grand. Which is right around normal for a good stone. But generally appraisals are way above what it is actually worth, they have to factor in the price of gold in the future and all those other things you need for insurence.

    But either way, if she wants to give it to you, Oh I’d snap that up in a heart beat!

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    if she wants to give it to you then snap that puppy up!

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    303 posts
    Helper bee

    She will have a very difficult time selling the ring for what it’s valued at. I think you should take her up on her offer and have it reset. She probably wants to see it put to good use and doing what it was meant to do. 

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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I don’t think the ring is cursed, but I think it’s nice to have something handed down from a nice situation I guess :P I don’t think I would ever have been able to accept a ring like that. Also, I like the sentimentality attached to a ring which has been chosen for me, or if FI and I had picked a ring together. I think the way in which you’re questioning it shows that you just need to sit down and think about it, and figure out if it’s right for you :)

    Also, it’s really sweet of you to be considering her kids :) But she might have some funds tucked away in an account to go towards their studies :) I’m sure if she was concerned about it she wouldn’t have offered the ring, but it’s nice of you to be  considerate of them :)  

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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A ring can’t be cursed.  It’s nothing more than a rock and metal.  The intention and promise that comes with it is what means something.

    If your SO can afford the $20K, then maybe he can put that amount into an account for her kids where it can gain funds over the years.

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    346 posts
    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s “cursed,” but energy affects everything around us.  There are, of course, people who will buy houses where the previous owner killed themselves, violently, or were murdered within it, but some people are cautious and avoid it.  I mean, really, what can it hurt to pass it up?  You get a ring that you and your fiance pick, together, and her boys possibly get a bit of money toward their education.  What’s the worst that can happen, if you take it?  Well, if there really is bad energy left around the ring from a particularly nasty break-up, well, it may affect your relationship.  I would much rather be safe than sorry.

    If I did take it, though, I would melt it down, reset it, and basically give it “new life,” so to speak. 

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