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I don't think it is rude. They will have each other to hang out with.
if your wedding party isnt dating anyone special, and in general you arent inviting +1s then I think you are in the clear just invited them.
picking and choosing is where you get tricky. its do-able but you are going to have to be aware of people maybe being a little put out. as far as i know, there is no magic answer to that one. as a guest, if I didnt know anyone else, I'd want to be involved in some way helping out, or would want a guest with me.
Maybe invite them all just as singles, and then when the final rsvp count is back IF you have room, maybe call the ones who wont know anyone and let them know they can bring someone. its not ideal, but its the best idea i've got.
not rude at all. when i was in a bridal party i always preferred to go dateless (when i was single) because i was so tied up with stuff all day and i didnt want to worry about my date sitting by himself the whole time!
I've got 2 bridesmaids who are single and they are not getting plus ones...Especially bc my wedding's out of town so it would be super-awkward to invite a random to be a date and then on top of that have them travel a few hours and stay in a hotel...so i don't think it's a big deal at all...you could also just ask each one individually if they WANT a plus one and if they do, try and accomodate them, since they are your bridesmaids, after all...
now my other question is if i have room to invite a plus one does it go to my bridesmaids who do know people or my single guests who might not know anyone. i appreciate the feedback.........
I also agree, if they aren't seriously dating anyone, then if you let them bring a date they won't know anyone and your bridesmaids will be too busy to give them attention anyway.
I would think that if they aren't dating anyone, they probably wouldn't mind (BMs that is ) because they'll be doing a bunch that day. Perhaps you could just mention to them. "I hope it's OK. We're strapped for space....." If they feel like it's a big deal, perhaps make an exception for the BP.
As for the guests, are you saying, you'll let some of the guests who will not know any of the other guests, bring a date. I can appreciate this line of thinking. And if they don't know anyone else, who'd know if the date was single or a spouse. Can you seat all of those people together? (Maybe they can secretly know they are the only ones who got the +1 and can keep it on the down low. he he.)
If they aren't seriously dating anyone then I'd say it's okay you don't want their dates tooling around with you if you don't know them well and I would think they would be uncomfortable not being with one of your ladies if they weren't invited to tall the festivities...hmm I hope that makes sense!
Since they are your close friends you can explain the situation to them. Maybe when your RSVP start rolling in you will have a few extra spots, and then they could have the option to bring a date. It can be lonely going to a wedding single.
Not rude at all, I went to a wedding when I was single on my own and was sat next to another girl who although dating her date could'nt make it. We had a great time together, we joked that people would think we were together :-)
My thing is they don't need plus 1s because they'll be too busy doing wedding stuff (well a good bridesmaid should be) that they can't entertain their own guest! So they're date will be sitting alone not knowing anyone, just taking space and another plate!
as to your second question-give it to someone who doesnt know anyone and is traveling to get there. no one wants to be in strange place all alone! if that doesnt fit anyone, then dont feel obligated to let anyone take a plus 1.
it's your party, you can invite whomever you want. while i think it would be a kind gesture on your part to allow your wedding party to have a +1, perhaps talk to them and tell them your situation and see how they feel about it.
No, I don't think you are being rude. The single BM's will be fine. Also, I don't think it's a bad rule to add a +1 if the guests who won't know anyone else (vs. those that will).
I've been to several weddings where plus ones were only given to the married or engaged friends. As a BM at my friends' wedding, I was allowed to bring a date, but my bride knew my then boyfriend very well. I think it's a nice gesture to let your BMs bring a date, but it is not necessary. Otherwise, it's perfectly fine to invite single guests w/o dates.
I may end up doing the same thing, but it would be in regards to my coworkers. I think I'd like to invite some of them, but I don't know if I'd invite them plus one. I'm going to play it by ear when it gets closer to the wedding. In this economy you can't even predict who will still be in my office and who I'll be talking to by that time.
I don't think this is rude at all. I have single guests attending my wedding and they are not getting +1 and same goes for anyone in our wedding party. Friends or family who are engaged, married or have been dating someone for a while did get an invite but I didn't put and "guest" on the invitation I found out there full names and wrote it out on the response cards. I don't see why anyone in the wedding party who is single would want to bring a guest as that guest probably won't know anyone at the wedding and they won't be with them at all until pretty much after the dinner and speeches. But for your other question if you do have space I think limiting the and guest to just your bridesmaids because if you start picking and choosing which single guest gets to bring someone you are opening up a window for other people to start calling you to ask. This is just my opinion though.
These days I think people understand (or can be made to understand) not getting plus 1s automatically at weddings. I'm operating as follows: marrieds/engageds get it automatically, and anyone with an established long term BF that I KNOW gets one. I'm not letting my friends bring Mr. Whomever She's Randomly Hooking Up With At The Moment. Ef that. That goes for my BMs as well and they are all aware of this and fine with it.
For me with all these balancing act things we just talk them out, explain the situation and see how to best handle it, and there's always things you just can't change and so far my bridesmaids have said whatever you need. There's been a few requests from them, but they've been accomadating, and anything unexpected I try to just call and say here's the situation, is this OK. I think as long as you just include them when it involves them, they'll be more likely to go with it, so they know what's going on and feel apart of things
If your bridal party members are coming out of town, they might appreciate a plus one... thats definitely a scenario to consider. I really don't like traveling alone, so that's the only reason I bring it up!
I don't think it's rude, but I would explain the situation to them. Most likely they won't care since it would actually be a huge pain for their 'date' to sit around with nothing to do all day then barely see them later on. Usually that's a task for serious significant others, not a casual dating situation or friend.
I am a firm believer in the plus 1 only if you have a significant boyfriend/girlfriend. Just explain nicely, and they should be okay. Besides, they'll be busy taking pictures and dancing!
I think it's fine. While we had enough room to allow our bridal party to inviate a date if they wanted, the single ones declined anyways. But for our guests, we are only allowing them to bring a date if they are seriously involved. The only exceptions we have made were for our friends who would literally know no one at the wedding. And we told them to keep it on the DL so that other guests wouldn't be offended.
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okay so i'm inviting 124 guests and I can't go over, i invited my single friends with no dates.All that are single are not dateing anyone but 3 of the singles are in my wedding party is it rude if I don't include them with a plus 1 since there not dateing anyone?
Also the girls in my wedding party pretty much know alot of the guests who are coming. Oh and is it bad to pick and choose who can bring a guest going on if they know anyone at the wedding.
thank you for your help:)