Is this rude?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Is a honeymoon jar rude?
    Yes : (45 votes)
    80 %
    No : (10 votes)
    18 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    2810 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Jen51287:  yes. it’s basically asking for money, which is never appropriate.

    Post # 4
    1524 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Jen51287:  I wouldn’t do it because it seems similar to the dollar dance which I loathe. To me, blatantly asking for money just seems tacky. Your guests will likely be bringing gifts/money anyway. Why not use the money you recieve towards your HM?


    Post # 5
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I saw this too, and I thought it was pretty cheesy. I wouldn’t do it. 

    Post # 6
    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think its kind of cute, but I’m not super uptight about things like that. I think most bees will think its rude.

    Post # 8
    8947 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Not a fan just because I don’t think guests should pay for your honeymoon.

    Post # 9
    4375 posts
    Honey bee

    Asking for money is rarely ok, unless you’re working for it.


    Post # 10
    710 posts
    Busy bee

    Honeymoon jar should be in your home to catch spare change at the end of the day. Not at your wedding.

    Post # 11
    45128 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Jen51287:  At what other social occasion would anyone put out a jar begging for money from their guests? I don’t invite you over for aparty  and put out a jar begging for donations to cover my next trip home to visit my parents.

    It is totally inappropriate.


    Post # 12
    5210 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Jen51287:  OK I know this word is hated on the Bee but all I can say is T-A-C-K-Y. If you can’t afford a honeymoon you know what? You don’t go on one! Your guests are obligated to you for one day, technically only a few hours with the exception of the bridal party. What happens after that is no one else’s responsibility. Good grief, if I saw something like that on a gift table I’d feel inclined to spit in it.

    Post # 14
    480 posts
    Helper bee

    I have seen it on Pinterest, and I think it’s cute. I don’t know if it’s entirely appropriate, though, since guests are probably bringing money anyway for the card box. I like the idea of putting it in your house though! And that shape so it’s harder to get money out of it, haha. 

    Slightly related, this one makes me laugh:

    I’d so do this one if I was okay with cake-in-the face. Tongue Out



    Post # 15
    2645 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Op your instincts were right; it would be very rude. Your guests have already bought you a gift – it would be in extremely poor taste to beg them for money.

    Post # 16
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I certainly wouldn’t be putting money in it, that’s for sure. I’d probably roll my eyes and move on.

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