Is this rude?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

is it possible to maybe order something? there’s always salad with grilled chicken or something like that. Maybe there are some restaurants around that could provide something more healthy and you can just plate it and serve that lol. that’s what i would do.

I think it is kind of rude to say “ummm pass.”  the way to handle that would be for her to say “thank you” eat a small portion of what you make and then if they aren’t happy with it, get their own damn food! it’s wonderful that you want to be a good hostess, it’s terrible that she doesn’t know how to be a gracious guest. :

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Maybe try googling (or Pinterest-ing) for healthy taco alternatives? That way maybe it’s along the lines of what you are used to, but with the healthy ingredients your Aunt would prefer?

ALso, yes I think that came off a bit rude. She should have said “Oh that’s sweet of you but we are trying to eat healthy.” and then maybe offered to help with the meal or something…not like, pay for you guys to go out, but offered healthy alternatives she could help you cook?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think that’s pretty rude… 

Maybe make an easy healthy pasta salad?  Whole wheat pasta, some cherry tomatoes, olive oil, green onions, black olives and italian seasoning and garlic? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@LadyBlackheart:  I personally wouldn’t eat something I didn’t want to eat. I do think she phrased it in a rude way though. If it was me, I would say, “actually, MrPanda99 and I are trying to eat healthy. We’d be happy to go out for dinner and join you for coffee after.” I wouldn’t expect my host to treat their home like a restaurant, but I also wouldn’t eat something I didn’t want to eat. I think you shouldn’t have told her what you were making and just given it to her. It’s a lot harder to be rude at that moment 😛

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She is definitely being rude.

But why can’t you learn to cook anything else? Look for simple healthy recipes online.

Try a healthy taco salad. Shredded chicken instead of ground beef… only half a packet of seasoning instead of a whole one. Lettuce (not iceberg, there is no nutritional value to it), tomatoes, onions if you like. mozz cheese on the side (less fattening than cheddar). no tortilla chips. It’s a good lean and green meal that I used to eat when I was doing Medifast (lost 40lbs in 3 months).

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@LadyBlackheart:  I would try to make a grilled chicken stir fry. Super easy. She was rude in how she said it. I think it is ok to decline the meal, but she really wasn’t classy about it.

And you can make tacos healthy. Tortillas instead of shells, turkey meat instead of ground beef, low fat cheese and so on and so forth.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LadyBlackheart:  I think she was terribly rude to reject your offer to cook dinner, and also rude in the way she did it.  Besides, spaghetti and tacos can be healthy if you use low-fat percentage ground beef or ground turkey. 

I would be pissed as hell at her, lol.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, that’s rude. I’d flip through some cookbooks or some online recipe sites though, and see if you can find something that looks doable. Most cooking isn’t really that hard, it’s just breaking it down into manageable steps.

Although at this point, I’d make spaghetti and say, “tough, I’m the host.”

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think your Aunt was rude.  My feelings would be hurt by that text.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Or – here’s a thought – your aunt could offer to pay for dinner for you and take you out.  That’s what my aunt would do.  😉 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Also, it might be worth it to find out what her definition of “healthy” is. I’m on a pretty strict diet right now (not that I would expect someone to accomodate me if I went to their house), and I wouldn’t be able to eat many of the ideas thrown out on this thread. It wouldn’t matter if you made me a whole-wheat pasta salad, because I can’t eat pasta, you known what I mean?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I don’t think it is rude, TBH. While I probably would have just been like -“ok!” even if I was dieting, some people don’t suck at eating healthy as much as I do. Maybe make lettuce wrap tacos? With some guacamole, pico de gallo and chicken they are amaze!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Sunfire:  +1   It is kind of odd that the Aunt doesn’t say, we’ll take you out.  I would assume she’s a lot older than OP.

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