Post # 1
I have a question. Is it rude to return a piece of jewelry that your finace’s grandmother sent you? She called and told him that she was going to send me jewelry for the wedding. (I have never met her because she lives far away) We were thinking that it was going to be something she would be passing down to me. But no, it is a set of grandmotherly jewelry from JCPENNY.
To make it worse, when I called her to say thank you she said “Oh you know, I bought it for myself but then I decided because I dont go anywhere nice that you should have it.” Then she proceeded to tell me about how she bought it for herself….
Would it be rude to return this and get something I will actually wear on my wedding day or would love to wear any other time?Or should I suck it up and just sit it on a shelf?
p.s. I will probably never meet her because of the distance and she has never been close to my finace
Post # 3
I am a sucker for gifts and literally keep everything I receive because I am so incredibly astonished and grateful for any gift I receive. I have this weird creepy cat statue my own crazy grandma gave me and I refuse to get rid of it…
In your situation thought, I don’t think she is overly attached to it, obviously since she bought for herself and then gave it to you. She has already committed the ultimate gifting faux paux so I would get something you want.
If it were me, it would have already been stashed away for years to come, collecting dust haha.
Post # 5
Umm, I think I would return it in this situation. It’s technically rude, but kind of warranted :).
Post # 6
If your not going to wear it and your not going to meet her then I would get something that you will wear. No sense putting it on a shelf and letting it collect dust.
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Post # 8
Return it and get something you want and will wear But will she be comming to the wedding? she might expect you to be wearing it…
Post # 9
Well, it was nice of her to send you something. Just keep it and break it out one day if you ever do meet her.
Post # 10
She didn’t even buy it with you in mind, so I think she would understand if you returned it for something you actually like.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies. I found it on the website and she spent a good chunk of change on it. I think I am going to return it to get myself a set of real pearls that I have always wanted. My Fiance said that this is typical of her and that I shouldnt think twice about returning it. I just dont want to seem ungrateful! However, she isnt even coming to the wedding, so it wont even come up then.
Post # 12
Oh also! Great Idea. We havent bought our wedding bands yet, and even though I would have never considered JCpenny to buy them at, if the price covers it then her gift will have a positive effect afterall!