Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is asking me everyday what the favors will be at the wedding! She also keeps asking me if I know what I am getting the bridal party for gifts. I find this incredibly rude. And I am also insecure because although I do know what the favors are, I don’t think they are something she will personally like. We are attaching dog shaped cookie cutters to a card mentioning our wedding donation to the ASPCA. I don’t think this is quite what she was hoping for, and she is not one to be silent about her opinions. I may be overreacting, but it bothers me that she is so concerned about the damn favors!
As far as the bridal party gifts, she is asking, but she is also telling me not to go overboard and spend too much. I know she isn’t expecting (or wanting) anything crazy, but why does she keep asking?
It is making me nuts.
Post # 3
I’d be annoyed too because I know what it is like to be in your shoes. With so many details up in the air, the last thing you want to be doing is re-evaluating a decision you already made. You will drive yourself insane doing that. She probably doesn’t realize how a seemingly innocent question can put you in a wedding stress tailspin. I’d just brush it off. Not worth getting worked up about.
Post # 4
just to give her the benefit of the doubt- sh emight be concerned about buying jewelry to wear at the wedding if you are going to gift it or something…
Post # 5
As far as the favors go, why does she need to know? Maybe she wants to help you put them together, but probably not. LOL As far as the gifts go, maybe she’s trying to buy jewelry like Vista suggested?
Post # 6
Could you possibly be reading into her questions too much? Sometimes when people want to just make friendly conversation about the wedding they end up asking inappropriate questions. As far as the bridal party favors, this may be her own way of telling you that she’s not expecting a huge, extravagant gift. If she brings either topic again, you might say "yes we’ve already figured it out but are keeping it a surprise until the wedding". If she continues prying, I would be a little more direct and ask her why she’s so worried about it.
Just be careful with the way you word it, as she could be inadvertently saying the wrong thing.
Post # 7
if it really bothers you, then say something. you dont have to be rude but you can put it in a nice way and hopefully she will stop annoying you. the other bees are right, you have too many other details to worry about to have a bridesmaid bothering you about gfts and favors. to me personally, thats tacky anyways. if she is just wanting to know about jewelry, then tell her if your gift to the bridesmaids are jewelry and that you have it covered. if its not, tell its a surprise and not to ask anymore.
whether its technically a big deal or not, its bothering you enough where you are unsure about how to deal with it. talk to her nicely but directly about it and hopefully it will be done with. and to her having strong opinions…dont let that bother you at all, this is your wedding and what you chose to do with it is your business, not hers. if she doesnt like the favor idea(which i think is great, btw) then thats too bad!
good luck and *hugs*
Post # 8
I agree with one of the other posters that you might be reading into it too much. Perhaps she is making wedding conversation? Everyone knows brides love to talk about their weddings- and if she thinks the gifts and favors are 2 of the undecided things, she might just be trying to be helpful?
In either case- just be straight with her about the favors- and if she has anything negative to say, just remind her it’s not her wedding! As for the bridal party gifts- tell her she can’t know in advance what her gift is because it’s supposed to be a surprise!