Post # 1
So alot of my fam is out of town. But the majority of my wedding is not family but close friends of mine and my parents. (I’d like to say im popular but I just live in a small town. lol) Well anywho, I really wanted to say thanks to my “out-of-towners” so instead of a rehersal dinner we are having a BBQ for all of our “out-of-towners”. This just gives me and my Fiance a chance to personally say thank you. I have done a wedding website and have a page on there for our out of town guests and I have the BBQ on there as well. Is this rude of me? Will the “in-towners” be offended??? Am I just being silly?? lol thanks guys!
Post # 3
I think that the others might be slightly offended.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s rude at all. Many actual rehearsal dinners include not only the bridal party and close family, but also the out of town guests. It’s just something to show your appreciation for your guests who have to make a bigger effort to be with you on your wedding day. I don’t think the in-towners will be offended – or at least they shouldn’t be.
Post # 5
It is totally fine, and rather normal now a days. Do invite your officiant and attendants, thoguh, to the BBQ.
Sounds like fun, good luck!
Post # 6
hmmmm. Im not sure.. I don’t know your “in-towners” but I do know my family and I know a few of them that would be calling my Mom “crying” or being over dramatic. THats just the way some of them are. They can be dramatic and gossipy.
In that case it wouldn’t work for me to have it on my wedding website. I would have to simply send out private invites just to the out of town guests.
YOu know your family and friends best – so just think about how some of them might feel if they noticed it on your website…….
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’d leave it off the website and just send an invitation.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s rude at all.
Post # 10
Its not rude its a gathering for your Out of Town guest. I wouldnt take it personal.
Post # 11
I don’t think it is rude but I would also take it off the wedding website and just send out an invitation!
Post # 12
I’m on the fence about if it’s right or not. I agree though, I’d take it off the website because what if an “in-towner” skims and doesn’t read like some people tend to do and shows up? I’d make a pretty postcard and send it out.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s rude to invite the out of towners and not the people in town but I would take it off the website and just send an invitation to the people.
Post # 14
I agree about taking it off the website, however I don’t think it’s rude. I have been to a lot of weddings where people do their rehearsal dinners that way.
Post # 15
we originally had all the Out of Town events – friday cocktails, sunday brunch – on the “wedding events” page but my mom didn’t like this. so we created a separate page for out of towners and took it off the general schedule page. i thought this was a good compromise. we are also putting an insert about the events in the invites for our of towners. we are about 75% OOTer anyway.
i think people understand that OOTers get invited to different things. that’s just how it is. although we are including some local family (a few cousins) in the Out of Town group even though they aren’t because they are family and we want to include them.
Post # 16
a rehearsal dinner is typically just FOR people from out of town AND bridal party. That’s not unusual to me and i’d send out invites.