Is this rude? I have a sneaking suspicion it is.

posted 3 years ago in Decor
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly I don’t think most guests will even notice, especially if they’re getting the same meal/drinks as everyone else.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t know if it’s rude, but I find chiavari chairs to be less comfortable than padded banquet hall chairs.  Even if it has the little chair cushion, it’s just kind of like sitting on a giant flat maxipad.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think anyone is going to care or even notice. It’s just a chair.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’ve noticed this at weddings but I don’t really think anything of it since it’s usually the head table or the sweetheart table.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

That’s not rude, that’s just a styling thing.  Let’s be honest, Chivari chars are less comfortable!  It’s normal for the head table to look differnt in some ways (different arrangement, differnt cernterpiece)…why not different chairs?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

the only thing we are doing differently for our sweetheart table than the rest is (besides the smaller table), a linen to the ground because it will look better for pictures. Our DOC said we could do a different color linen (like navy) while the rest are white, but I didn’t want to do that so white it is!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I wouldn’t think it’s rude. It’s a style thing and most people will be more comfortable in regular banquet chairs as PPs have said so they might even be grateful.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MoonlitMagnolia:  You shouldn’t do anything that honors some guests above others or provide anything only for certain guests. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

My daughter’s sweetheart table had wooden arm chairs – Queen Ann styled.They had a gold overlay tablecloth and different flowers.  Everyone else had the banquet chairs, with stretchable covers. There was no head table. I had to sit on a chiavari chair during the 2 hour meeting, where we went over all the hotel’s details. It was pure torture. My husband ended up in another chair, after an hour. Go ahead and decorate the table differently, just don’t serve upgraded food.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s strange to do this.  It makes you look like you think you’re better than your guests.  I don’t know if I’d call it rude, but I’d absolutely raise my eyebrows and wonder why you got the upgraded chairs…

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Unless the regular chairs were terribly uncomfortable, I doubt anyone would notice.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I wouldn’t think twice about it. Being judged over a chair choice is strange, and if someone does, I feel sorry for them that they occupy their minds with such small matters. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Do people really notice the chairs at weddings?? I typically tend to notice the bride, the groom, the other guests I sitting with, the drink in my hand, even the food sometimes….the things that actually matter. Not the chairs.

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