Post # 1
Ok bees, I had some guests couldn’t make it to our wedding due to visa issues so I decided to ask I any of my other friends would like to attend (they know its a small wedding and where we are only able to invite so many people so we had to invite family first).
I verbally aske one of the lady from our church to see if she would like to attend, she has always been nice and caring but when I asked her, she immediately assumes her son is invited too, I told her due to limited space, I can only invite her. She said we are having our wedding at a nice venue so she said she would love to go.
When my BMs send her an invite to my bridal shower she said, literally “But I don’t have time and don’t know how to go. Thanks.” —- Am I being too sensitive or she is really rude? I feel like she has time to go to my wedding for a fancy dinner but don’t have time or don’t bother to find out how to get to my shower?
I have guest decline couldn’t make it to the shower, I understand, they had other plans, they live in a diff state, they have family visiting, I’m ok with it. But with her respond, it seems like she can’t go because she doesn’t want to find out the address?? How come you can find the address to my wedding venue then?
Since I have not send her an official invite, should I just drop it? Not send her an invite at all? My wedding is invite only.
FYI – My bridal shower is no-gift. And the people I asked to attend are the ones that said they want to go.
Post # 3
@iMechie: You are upset because a 2nd tier guest who you only invited becuase others couldn’t make it, was unable to make it to the shower because she didn’t have time to go, and didn’t know where it was ?
I’m sorry, you are over reacting. She can decline to go for whatever reason. It would be impolite of you now to rescind her invitation.
Post # 5
No, I’m upset its because how she decline it. I have guests that couldn’t make it to the shower because they are away or had other plans, I’m ok. But with her respond, it sounds like she just don’t want to find out how to get there. But…you know how to get to the wedding venue? That’s sounds lame…
Post # 6
So…because this “after-thought becuase one guest couldn’t make it and you needed to fill seats” person said she can’t come to your shower you don’t want her at the wedding? What are you going to do about the people that RSVP’d to your shower and then don’t show? Uninvite them?
I definitely think you are overreacting.
Post # 9
Aw nuts, you’re only getting one gift out of this woman instead of two.
Post # 10
My shower is no-gift. And no, I don’t HAVE to invite more guests to fill the spot…I asked because they said they want to attend.
Post # 11
@iMechie: Maybe she didn’t love that she was an after thought guest. Maybe that is why she didn’t exactly jump with joy, to give you another present.
Showers are really meant to be nearest and dearest, people who couldn’t imagine not celebrating your wedding with a token gift. This lady really doesn’t fit the bill.
Post # 12
@andielovesj: we’ll, I guess I feel bad because she said she really wants to attend. You’re right , I shouldnt invite people just because they like weddings.
And FYI – I even told them theres no gift gifting so that can’t be a reason
Post # 14
I don’t think you should be upset, as pp mentioned the shower is only for family and close friends. She probably feels that she will be out of place.
Don’t take her out of the wedding and just let it go. Its not an issue worth stressing over.
Post # 15
Maybe wedding showers aren’t her thing. Let it go
Post # 16
Maybe her response was rude, but even more rude would be you taking away your invitation because she was rude to you…and as I read that, it actually sounds quite childish. Be happy she wants to celebrate with you and move on.