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Nothing wrong with Feb 4th. I think it's fine... your anniversary being the day after their birthdays wouldn't be a big deal. that's just my opinion :).
I'd leave it. I got married on one of tour groomsmen's 18th birthday (had no idea at the time). We had the DJ mention it and we all sang to him. He said he had a blast and was glad it worked out that way.
Birthdays happen every year, you get 1 wedding, the birthdays don't even fall on the same day. No matter what day you choose it will most likely be someone's B-day. One of our guests, fiance of groomsman, has her B-day on our day.
The bridesmaid and groomsman with the birthdays: do they mind? Are they family? If not, I would say it's no big deal. I don't even celebrate my birthday anymore, and I certainly don't celebrate every anniversary of a friend. A nice card, yeah, but parties and stuff? Nuh uh.
I would also stick with Feb 4th if I were you. I understand it's not ideal, but after going back and forth on my own date I realized you just have to do it when it is convenient for you and when it feels right for you. Your friend who is having their 30th bday could have their celebration on a weekend near the wedding, not on the exact date...
Yeah, I kind of had the same thought, I just felt like it was kind of awkward. So you guys don't think it's awkward at all? We could acknowledge it at the reception, that could be cute.
@MightySapphire: I do kind of think the BM would care. She is already a little jealous (she REALLY wants to be engaged to her new bf). I think she was upset that we got engaged "right before their 1 year anniversary." We had no idea, nor did I think that mattered.
It doesn't seem like a big deal to me to have it near the birthdays. Although I don't see how the weather is going to be much different Feb 4th than it would be in January. If you want nicer weather you might want to go with April. HOWEVER- late March is typically when vendors start their peak season prices (in VA/ DC anyway) so Feb. might work out to be much cheaper, regardless of the weather. And boo to your FI saying December was too soon!
I wouldn't change it. Really shouldn't be a big deal, and if it is, that's their problem, not yours :)
I've never really heard of anyway changing their wedding date because it clashed with a birthday of someone in the bridal party. I would just keep the date u already have.
I say stick with Feb. 4th because like others said, it's your one day and if it's going to be that hard to pick another date, just stay. Since the one will be on the day of your rehearsal, you have 2 options. Make an announcement at the dinner and then after dinner, do a birthday party and/or go for drinks. Or you could hold your rehearsal early, unless you have conflicts with the bridal party. As far as your actualy wedding day, it shouldn't be a big deal and your wedding date and their birthdays won't be on a weekend every year so chances are, they wouldn't be going all out on their birthday every year.
My dad's birthday is the day of our rehearsal and we are doing a cake and singing to him and then something different later that's just for him. Since he's my dad, he said that the best present is seeing us get married and he's excited.
No worries, do what's best for yall :)
Thanks bees!
FI and I were seriously getting frustrated. We have huge families and were trying to avoid birthdays and I guess assumed we had to avoid WP birthdays as well. We were in "avoid any and all birthdays mode." haha.
Ok... i was going through the same problem... but i realized... you cant please everyone... theres always going to be somebodys bday, or celebration on your day or near... Do what makes you happy...
Or you can do something special for them still so they dont think you forgot...
I had my wedding on my flower girls bday... not on purpose.. actually didn't realize till a couple months before the wedding... I ended up giving her bday presents, cinderella cake( she loves cinderella) and having everyone sing happy bday to her at reception!
My ring bearer's 5th birthday is our wedding day, and I bet he'll have a blast! We are going to have everyone sing Happy Birthday, and he'll have his own special cupcake with a candle. I think your GMs 30th will be way more memorable than any other birthday celebration someone could come up with! Keep the date! If you avoided every birthday/holiday/milestone, you'd never get married!
@Soon2bMrsWheeler: That was so nice of you! I love the cake.
Personally I would just go for it. You have settled on a date, do you really want to have to find another one?
Yeah, you're super nice to consider them, but they're adults, right? They shouldn't care if your wedding is in the vicinity of their birthday. I know I wouldn't. I'd leave it 2/4.
We're having our wedding a week after a friend's birthday.
I told her when the wedding was (she lives in CA) and she was like "oh.. it's not in the summer?" My reply: "nope, not me". I asked why and she said it was a week after her birthday. So, I told her I understood if you couldn't come but she'd be missed.
I am NOT changing the date for ANYONE! Unless I'm in the hospital or he is, it's gonna happen on April 14th come rain, shine, hell or high water! LOL!
If it makes you feel better, I had to wait EIGHT YEARS to pick a date that didn't coincide with a holiday where it wasn't frigid or too hot.
i would leave it. our wedding's the same day as 2 of our guests' bdays, so we're going to have the band sing happy birthday. yours isn't even the same day.
When you tell them the date of the wedding, you should definately acknowledge the fact that you KNOW it's right around their birthdays so they know you've thought about it. (And maybe explain why you had to pick that date.)
Perhaps you could have an early rehearsal on the 3rd of February (in the afternoon or perhaps even another day completely, if possible) so that your friend who is turning 30 can have a party that night.
It would also be a great idea to recognize their birthdays at the reception somehow, but I'm not sure it's necessary because it isn't their actual birthday... I WOULD BE SURE to get them something or do something nice for them on their actual birthdays though, even though you'll be running around busy.
I would leave it as is. It is your special day. You can't make everyone happy, it's about what you and your fiance want. You can let them know that you know its around their birthdays but that was the date you had decided to go with. If they don't want to be apart of your day or get upset then are they your real friends? I wouldn't stress over it. Set your date and enjoy the planning.
As far as a long engagement, my fiance and I will be engaged for 15 months before our wedding on 9-10-11. But we wanted that date and it has given us plenty of time to plan and save money. So just remember to make yourself happy and do what works for you and him. Best of luck to you on setting the date,
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Okay, hive. I need some solid advice.
FI and I have been engaged since November. We were planning a March 2012 wedding, and then found out that that won't work (for several familial reasons). So I said, cool, what about February? The only date in February that worked was Feb 4. (Current date on my profile.) Well, last week I realize aduhhhhh we have a bridesmaid AND groomsmen who have birthdays on Feb 2 and 3... And the bday on the 3rd is a big deal-ish birthday for the GM (30).
So now we feel the need to move the date again -- we don't want our anniversary every year falling around the same weekends they'll want to celebrate their birthdays, etc.
So, what would you do? We're kind of opposed to January for weather reasons, the other February dates are out and most of March is out. Do I suck it up and go with early April? *sigh* I feel like we're having the longest engagement ever if we wait that long. (I know logically this isn't true; there are plenty people that have longer engagements, I'm just ready to be married and have a DATE!) *Sigh*
Thanks for listening. Lol.
--- FI also said "No, that's too soon" to December 10. :/ Boo! I can plan a wedding in that time. LOL.