Is this slightly offbeat reading… too offbeat?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I don’t think it’s too offbeat. Any reading from a fiction book is going to have people’s names in it, I wouldn’t worry about that. I think it’s really sweet! If you both like it, go for it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, yes, I think it’s weird. It sounds like a book about a brother and sister, both of them about 8 years old. It’s your wedding though.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I might think it was a little odd, but if I knew you two personally, then maybe it would make more sense 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s cute. We had a reading from Hitchhiker’s Guide though. That had names in it and it was fine.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I like it. I think its cute

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  Hmmm… honestly, I don’t understand the whole friend thing in weddings. I would never decribe my SO as a my friend, and I am not marrying my *best friend*. I guess it depends on how you describe a friend to begin with, but to me, a male friend is someone I would not have sex with in the first place, so it makes no sense to compare the love of my life with someone I’m not attracted to. To hear it repeatedly in a reading ”he’s my friend, she’s my friend”, I would find it weird. 

While I think some examples are funny and cute, I would rather use this text to inspire my own personal vows, but without insisting so much on the friendship aspect of it. Just replacing every quote with ”my love” and it’s already more wedding-material. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s cute, but it’s not very romantic. Plus, if people giving vows at a wedding started using different names and I wasn’t familiar with the context, I would wonder who those people were and whether they were your nicknames for one another.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it’s sweet, but I may also have a children’s book as a reading

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s cute. We’re doing some off beat readings as well, a children’s book called “A Lovely Love Story” by Edward Monkton.

If anything I would just think that reading is a bit long if you are having others, might edit it down as you mentioned.  Otherwise if you’re worried about time there is this article that has a lot of similar ones, readings from kids books, that are shorter:

http://offbeatbride.com/2011/05/wedding-readings-from-childrens-books

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m not a fan.  I think it makes marriage sound like two 6 year-olds playing house, or like my 4 year-old niece when she tells me how she going to marry one of her friends.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it’s cute but VERY LONG and you might lose people’s interest with both the length, the male/female reading bits, referring to each other as “friends,” and the not-your-name names used in the story.
I know I would be very confused and that would make me pretty distracted from the actual wedding part.

There are two readings I liked equally, we chose the one my FI liked but I plan on finding a way to incorporate the other reading into our home somewhere.

Why not just have the picture book available for people to read at the guestbook table?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t like it. Too long and childish.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  I think it’s adorable! If the reading felt so right it moved you to tears then you should definitely use it. Your wedding day is the ultimate expression of your love, and you should d what you can to express that. Even if other people think it’s weird and don’t get it…who cares? If it’s perfect for you guys, that’s all that matters 

I do think agree with @EffieTrinket: that it’s not very romantic. It’s about platonic love, and I think I would find it a little weird if it were read in a wedding ceremony without any kind of context. There needs to be some kind of tie in, maybe you could have the person officiating talk about how you guys are each others’ best friends or something? There defintely needs to be something said about friendship before the reading. 

Maybe if you’re editing it already you could replace Rosie and Micheal with you and your FI’s names, and have the readers talk in the third person? Also maybe for clarity you could replace ‘friend’ with ‘husband’ or ‘true love’. You could replace the fears in the book with your own fears and talk about real bad times that your FI comforted you through. It needs some tweaking anyway t make it work as a reading, and I think it would be beautiful if you personalised it.  Like for example, instead of saying: 

Rosie is my friend. She likes me when I’m dopey and not just when I’m smart. I worry a lot about pythons, and she understands. My toes point in and my shoulders droop, and there’s hair growing out of my ears. But Rosie says I look good. She is my friend. 

The reader could say: 

Hername is hisname’s wife. She likes him when he’s dopey and not just when he’s smart. Hisname worries a lot about spiders, and hername understands. Hisname’s toes point in and his shoulders droop, and there’s hair growing out of his ears. But hername says hisname looks good. She is his wife. 

I think it sounds really cute like that. You could say is was based on the book Rosie and Micheal. 

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