(Closed) Is this statement true or false?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Who made the statement?  Was it your MOH? Or FMIL? ???

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

TRUE. You should only have one shower, and the people behind the scenes (even if they don’t know eachother) should be doing it together and not get you involved.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sort of true – when there’s more than one shower it’s usually because it’s a work shower (people who often aren’t even invited to the wedding but they want to do something for you) or the two different people giving them are so far apart in distance it wouldn’t make sense for your guests to travel.

If you’re in the same general area, I can understand why she would be upset. 

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been to lots of showers and sometimes it’s both sides of the family together … other times it’s the bride’s side for one shower and groom’s side for the other shower plus a work shower.  It really just depends on the details (how many people, location, etc.)  If they were in the same location and there weren’t a ton of people invited, then yes, I would agree that one shower would have sufficed.  Not sure why it’s your sister’s responsibility to contact the FMIL though — she could have just as easily contacted your sister.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It depends.

Your sister knew you just wanted a small shower and decided to host a get-together just for friends…. is that really considered a shower?

No matter what, your MIL shouldn’t be “angry” with you…if she wanted to work something with your sister, she should have asked you for her phone number/email and then discussed with her.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

If they are each inviting two completely different circles of people, I don’t see the problem. If a lot of the same people will be invited to both showers, then yes, they should probably be combined into one shower.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

True. Multiple showers look gift grabby.

ETA- let me edit my statement by saying that if you invite the same people to both showers it looks gift grabby. But if one is for different groups (ex- one for your family one for his family) it should be fine.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

If the two showers were held in the same general area (ex same city), then yes, I’d say that statement is TRUE.

If they are in two separate states or something then two separate showers is okay.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There is no limit to the number of showers you can have, I know I will probably have two, as I have all the women in my life from my hometown, and then the ones where I live now. I can’t expect half the women I know to drive 300 miles for a shower.

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