Post # 1
My fiance’s friend invited us and a few other couples to St. John in November. I was SUPER excited until I found out we weren’t staying at a resort. We are staying at a house in a somewhat remote location. So we will have to rent a car and buy groceries for the entire trip. This would be fine, but it also means that me and the girls (who I don’t really know) will be cooking for the boys the entire vacation — cuz that is how these things always work out haha. We will also have to pay for all of our alcohol and feeding five boys can get QUITE expensive on St. John.
I also found out that the guy who invited us is planning to propose to his girlfriend there. This is adorable (what girl wouldn’t want to be proposed to on St. John??), but I kind of feel like we are funding his proposal trip. After he proposes, the rest of the couples will just have to awkwardly stay out of the way of their newly engaged bliss.
Am I being rude or irrational for not wanted to go on this trip? Has anyone else been on a group trip where there was a proposal? My fiance really wants to go. But I just feel like it will be a super expensive trip that won’t be that fun as I originally thought. 🙁
Post # 3
I haven’t but I honestly think it would be MORE fun after the proposal. When you got engaged, weren’t you super excited? Didn’t just want to celebrate? Wouldn’t it be a ton of fun to pop some bubbly and celebrate with your friends in the Caribbean? I wouldn’t let the proposal be a detractor.
As for the trip being expensive, I agree, it probably will be. You’ll just have to decide with your FI if it’s something you can afford.
Post # 4
I don’t see how this would be more expensive than staying at a resort but I agree that yes, having to cook every meal would be annoying. It sounds fun though!
Post # 5
I say BBQ its an easy way to get any group of guys to cook atleast 1 meal a day.
Post # 6
Oh @aure, I sure hope you are right!! I hope, hope, HOPE they get engaged and are like PAR-TAY. Instead of, “let’s go off on our own and bask in our love”. If they do that, it will be like Lametown, USA!
I think maybe I am being weird about it because a friend of mine had the same thing happen to her last summer (on a cruise). They planned this big trip and one couple got engaged. It ended up being a buzz kill because the couple did not want to be part of the group anymore, at all. But, i shouldn’t expect that to happen every time!
Post # 7
@naturalysam: so true! I was telling my fiance that we have to be sure to get a house with a grill. After all, five “grill masters” is better than one!
Post # 8
@naturalysam: I was gonna suggest this too. Also, make a ton of stuff that’s good leftovers the first day and you can eat it again on day 2 or 3.
Post # 9
A private house with being able to cook my own food actually sounds way more fun than a resort to me. I’m not a big resort person, and I hate having to eat out all the time when I travel. I’d much rather chill out, get to eat what I want to eat, get to explore the whole island independently with a car, etc. Sounds like a dream to me!
Post # 10
@cwbrown85: What wet noodles! Have you hung out with this couple before? Do they give off that same lame vibe?
Post # 11
@scadadle15: I agree with this.
Cooking would definitely be cheaper than a resort imo. But be warned the groceries are by not cheap either though.. Alcohol on the other hand, if you buy at the grocery store… very cheap. We stayed at the Westin, but bought cereal for the room cause breakfast was about $15 there… but a box of cereal was $6… a liter of rum? $6 bucks too. If you dont want to cook, just eat out. There are a few reasonble places in town, which I think is still cheaper than resort dining.
Post # 12
its doesn’t have to be hard, just find some things to cook that are easy. is there a grill? get some meat and some prefabricated sides (if they have those).
Post # 13
Grilling will definitely get the guys to help with the coooking. I also think you’ll still have fun even if the newly engaged couple decides to go off on their own – there will still be 3 other couples to hang out with. I also think if he WANTS everyone there for the proposal, he’s going to want to celebrate with everyone too. Hope you have a great trip!
Post # 14
Thank you so much, ladies! Your suggestions are words of encouragement are super helpful!
Post # 15
I got engaged on vacation while we were with another couple (who had gotten engaged a few months earlier). Honestly, it was fun that they were there and we ended up doing a big celebration the following night and the other girl and I just chatted about weddings for the rest of the trip. I hope it’s fun, I feel like if he’s knowing there’ll be other people there, they shouldn’t be lame about it and totally isolate! Also, I agree with PP, BBQ is the way to go! The majority of the time we go on vaca, we do it like this and just go with eggs for breakfast, simple sandwiches for lunch (pb&j) and bbq for dinner (hot dogs, burgers, chicken, fish, corn, etc)
Post # 16
Honestly it’s only as awkward as you make it and if you go in with the expectation of “this is going to suck” then it probably will.
I have a feeling they are doing the remote location/groceries with the thought that it will be cheaper overall. But I totally see how you feel like you are funding their proposal trip.
I like everyone’s suggestion of getting the boys to grill! When I’m on vaca I don’t want to cook either…so I totally understand the annoyance there!