Is this… strange?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@jwdesiree:  Maybe she doesn’t have any friends or she is sending out invitations to people she knows will decline in order to get more gifts. I have never heard of an email wedding invitation and it does seem weird.

I wouldn’t worry about it. You’ve already decided not to go and you won’t be inviting her to your wedding.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jwdesiree:  It’s weird! I’ve never been invited to a wedding via email, nor have I been invited to the wedding of someone that I (or FI) only knew for a grand total of 2 months. Is the wedding a casual event? 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think she might be under the impression that she is supposed to invite everyone and maybe thinks you will too? I don’t think that’s correct technically, but I could be wrong. I don’t think she meant anything malicious or intended to pre-invite herself though. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@jwdesiree:  She can expect all she wants 😛 Doesn’t mean you have to do it.

Post # 9
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jwdesiree:  I think I am on your page not hers…  I also work in a small office, 15 or so employees, and I am the new girl.  (I say new but have been there over a year.)  I invited one person whom I am quickly growing close with and the rest were not invited.  I do not have unlimited resources to pay for these people, I have a large family and am not even inviting all of my friends.  My other co-worker who had her wedding after mine, (she has been there 5 years) sent out an email inviting everyone to the ceremony only!  Not the reception.  I really felt that was just rude and did not go to her ceremony.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think this is weird. At my last job, while I was there for 3 years, everyone who got married while working there invited a large majority of the people in our group (which is like 30 people) if not all of them.

Currently, I decided to give Save the Dates to 3 girls I work with – one of whom I just met in June – for a wedding I am having in June. I decided I really like her, even though I’ve only known her for (3 months at the time the STDs went out) such a short period, and if I still know her then, I want her to come. I’m not inviting everyone, but I’m also having a destination wedding. If I was having a local wedding, I would likely invite everyone.

Maybe she looks at this as her “team” and “family outside of friends/family” – it’s the people you spend the most time with really – and maybe she sees a future in the company. Maybe she also thinks it’s the right thing to do.

The email part is a big weird though. I think it’s weird bc she should have handed out real invites (like everyone at my old job did – they didn’t mail them, just hand them out).

ETA: I would likely nip it in the butt (is that the right saying? lol) right now about the future invites for your wedding, to be honest. I would respond with something like, “I wish I had it in my budget to invite everyone from work! I hope no one gets offended, but I’ve already had to cut some friends and relatives and I don’t think I’ll have room for coworkers, but we’ll see when the final guest list is made and invitations go out.” And – she’s another bride. Perhaps you can approach her and ask her what she thinks about “whether it’s necessary to invite everyone” and see what she has to say – she might respond, “Oh, no, I just wanted everyone there!” or “Yeah, I thought that was the rule.”

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@jwdesiree:  I think it’s kind of weird to not have formal invitations, but I’ll be inviting people from my job to my wedding. So no, I don’t think that part is weird. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think we can speculate all we want, but none of us knows why the coworker invited the whole office. Maybe she’s  just a really nice person who is so excited about her wedding that she wants to share with anyone she can.

Maybe they are only having a tea and cookies reception in the church hall, and the extra bodies won’t make any difference.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jwdesiree:  I don’t know, I think I’d rather not invite the whole office…. even if it slightly offended her. I would likely decline though and send a small gift if I knew I had no intention of inviting her. That is a tough spot though. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jwdesiree:  i don think its weird..i think it was thoughtful to include you guys…i have a co worker who found out she was pregnant when seh started the job and invited us all to her baby shower after only knowing us for maybe 3 months…i guess its a little differnt though because shes from a different country and doesnt know many people here besides her husband and in laws…still i dont think its weird..i think its the thought that counts

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