Post # 1
My Venue has a bridal and a grooms suite they are nice sized but by no means are they huge. Prefect for our small groups. ( 3 Bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen)
For a handful of stupid reasons there are going to be a few guest who show up very very early( Like 3 hours early). One of them is the Best man’s wife and her 3 week old son. As well as a few extended family members. I really really really don’t want these early arrivers hanging out in the Bride/ grooms suites. I jsut want to enjoy getting ready with my Mom and my girls. I don’t want to try and host people, I have things to do.
Is it tacky to put ‘Bridal Party Only’ signs on the doors?
Also what do I do with these people while we take our Pre Ceremony Pics?
I am getting married in 4 days….. ugh.
Post # 2
Ibblet: Has your FI spoken to his Best Man and asked him what his wife and child intend to do?
Post # 3
Ibblet: This is NOT your issue. If they are choosing to show up that early, they need to find a way to entertain themselves. We had something similiar happen – the husband of one of our groomsmen showed up 2 hours early (when pictures were being taken). He sat in a chair in the lobby of the venue for the entire 2 hours, while we did pictures, etc. and I didn’t see him until the ceremony.
I wouldn’t worry about it – if anyone ends up somewhere they arent supposed to be – have some kindly let them know its for bridal party only – though I can’t imagine someone would bust into the suite. I also cant imagine your fiance or his groomsmen being happy about his wife + 3 month old hanging in the groom’s suite. I know my husband was all about hanging with the fellas and drinking beer.
Post # 4
Ibblet: I wouldn’t put “Bridal party only” on the door. Maybe something like “Bridal party suite.” That kind of implies it. Then you could have your mom or a bridesmaid run interferance to keep people out. This should be a delegated task, not on you on your wedding day.
Post # 5
Ibblet: I’d designate your BMs to protect the suite so to say. They can tell anyone who would like to come in that you don’t want to be seen before the wedding. Nobody should argue with that logic. You can use the same excuse to keep people away from the photos if you’d like, just have the BMs clear guests out of where you’ll be. Also if there’s anywhere convenient and comfortable nearby (shoot, Denny’s would do, just somewhere to sit and drink a cup of coffee) then you might want to tell your BMs that they can point guests toward such a place if they’d like to wait more comfortably. It might be a little harder for your FI to keep them out, particularly the best man’s wife and infant son, but I’d leave that concern to your FI 😉
I don’t think the sign idea is rude, but I think it’s less effective. People tend to think that surely the sign doesn’t apply to them.
Post # 6
Ibblet: Extended family should butt out, but I think best man’s wife is a special case. The best man is probably doing a lot for this wedding, at a very busy time in his life (and his wife’s life). If they have to travel together, then his wife has no choice but to arrive early. So I think you should be accomodating for her and newborn somehow. Is there another place in the venue you can reserve for her?
Post # 7
aussiemum1248: She is more than welcome to sit in the reception area. But to be completly honest she is my lest favorite person in the world. But, I am perfectly sweeet to her for my FI’s sake. I had orginally wanted a child free wedding but she complain that her and her babie HAD to be there so I let it slide and invited kids.
I have also got in touch with mutal friends of ours who live in the same town as her and they were willing to give her rides to the venue. But she refused. She insists she needs to be there when her Husband is. I just can’t stand her. And really do not want her there.
Post # 8
weatherbug: ha ha ha you would think that right? But even though our bridal suite to get ready was in the hotel next to our venue I indeed came back to find two guests who just decided to pop in to hang out there when we returned from taking our bridal party pics.
You can assign a trusted friend to help direct your guest to the proper waiting area if they are arrive early and to help keep people away from the bridal/groom suites
Post # 9
I feel alittle better hearing everyone agree lol! I was worried that I was expected to just allow people in and out all day. I am not going to lie the southern training in me is slightly mortified at telling people to go away 😀
Post # 10
If you can’t stand her, she probably knows that, and won’t go out of her way to be around you while you’re getting ready.
Your Fi can decide if he’d like to welcome her into the groom’s suite.
Post # 11
Ibblet: I would speak with the venue and tell them that if anyone shows up early to please direct them into an area where they can wait for the festivities to start.
I had that issue too, anyone that came early was directed to hang out in the lounge which had tables, a bar, and booths for everyone to be seated comfortably.
However, I think the Best Man’s wife should be an exception
Post # 12
perhaps she doesn’t want to travel with anyone else because her baby is THREE WEEKS OLD. Maybe she doesn’t trust anyone else to drive them, maybe she doesn’t want to ask them to pull over so she can whip out a boob and struggle to breastfeed in front of them, maybe she wants to be close to the father of her infant son because she is just learning. You don’t need to let her into the bridal suite and you don’t need to like her but cut her some slack dude! Especially about bringing the baby to the wedding in the first place. Since she’s come with her husband now at least she can go breastfeed in their vehicle instead of the middle of the reception hall, the bathroom, or Denny’s. Open your heart a little 🙂
Post # 13
I understand that you are not fond of this person, but with a child that small, you can’t be unreasonable. She likely travelled w/ hubby because she needed help or support with the baby – and no – there is no substitute for baby daddy. While she doesn’t need to be in the suite with you, maybe talk to best man & ask what her intention is while she is in the area, and possibly suggest someplace quiet and APPROPRIATE that she and baby hang out – deal with this proactively, not reactively and less feelings will be hurt … unless that’s your intention… you did say that you didn’t like her……?
Post # 14
I guess I am frustrated because up untill this week she said she wasnt going to be there at all. THat her and th baby and her 12 year old daughter were going to stay home and that the Best man was just goinng to leave early. But now all of the sudden she is showing up at 3 for my 6 oclock wedding and is expecting to just hang out with me all day.
I told my Fi that her and my extended family are welcome to hang out in the reception space. (which is the same building as my ceremony) But, I do not want a 3 week old crying baby in the suite.
As for breastfeeding I dont care where / when she breastfeeds, I don’t find it bothersome at all.
To be honest I don’t get why you would bring a 3 week old to a wedding at all but we did not say anything about it.
Post # 15
Ibblet: She could be bringing a 3 week old to a wedding because the baby is likely breastfeeding.