(Closed) Is this tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it inappropriate to ask party attendants to pay for their ride on the party bus?
    Yes! It's tacky! : (21 votes)
    32 %
    No! It's your night! : (44 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    All the bach parties I’ve attended we’ve paid our own way and then gave a little extra to help cover the bride’s part.

    Post # 4
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    No, If they want to join in on the fun, it should be at their own expense.

    Post # 5
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    Following up to your other post.  I don’t think this is necessarily a bad way to go, if they agree.  But it sounds like they told you they’d be planning it.  So if you are going around doing some planning, I’m afraid they might feel like their toes are being stepped on, and get offended. 

    Also, what if they can’t pony up the money to pay for the limo, and the money they were putting into the rest of the party?

    Post # 6
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think it’s fine to ask them how much it will cost per-person, but you shouldn’t expect them to cover YOU since you’re the one that booked it.  Plus you need to be understanding if people don’t go because of the price.  It’s one thing if your friends throw your party and book the party bus, but another when you do it yourself – does that make sense?

    I went to a bachelorette party where the Bride planned the whole thing.  She just said “the hotel costs this much, so since there’s five of us, it’s xx per person,” and we all decided to each chip in extra to cover her too, but she didn’t expect us to since she booked it.

    Post # 7
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    And the word “tacky” appears again LOL

    On a more serious note, whenever I have gone to a bachalorette party I have paid for the transportation so I just think it’s normal.

    Post # 8
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    You didn’t really give all the information here for people to vote on.  Since YOU decided to book the party bus I actually do not think it’s ok for you to expect others to pay for it.  Would you charge your bridal party to ride the limo you booked for your wedding day?  If they chose to have a limo then they would have payed for something they can afford.. but you didn’t give them the opportunity to do that.

    Post # 9
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Why don’t you just let your bridal party plan the party they can afford to plan?  It sounds like you’re planning the party the way you want to do it, and then charging admission.  If you want the party bus, and your bridal party doesn’t, it’s your job to pay for it.  I think if you start inflating the costs for this party and essentially sending them an invoice if they want to attend, you’re going to wind up with far fewer friends there than you’d like.

    Post # 11
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Oh hmmm sticky situation.  Since you already booked it without asking them first how they all are with finances, it’s hard to ask them for the money. 

    Maybe shoot a quick email to everyone who is going to be on the bus with a breakdown in price and see what people’s responses are.  I think if the price is reasonable, most of your friends will be willing to chip in.  Good luck!

    Post # 12
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If they were planning on getting a bus anyway and you basically got them a deal on it I think that it’s okay to ask them to help pay.  I am just not sure how I would word it!

    Post # 13
    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i think it depends on how much of an input the attendants have had in planning.  if they’ve been vocal about wanting something cheaper because they can’t afford going the party bus route then that plan needs to be re-thought.  if they think the party bus is a great idea then i see nothing wrong with having them help pay for it.  it’s a joint party thrown in the bride-to-be’s honor.  just be sure to be up front about all costs before booking.

    Post # 14
    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If this is for a bachelorette party, then you should not ask anyone for anything. the party itself is a gift to you from the moh and bridesmaids and or female friends and family.

    It is fine for your bridemaids, moh or female friends, however, to require participants to pay their own way.

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