(Closed) Is this tacky- Bach Party Question

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee

Stuff with money is always a little tacky.  But I would rather be tacky than cheated.  I think it is sort of a necessary evil.  So my answer is, yes it is tacky, but who cares and you should do it anyway.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

no, it’s not.  It’s about the people you’re going with and if it’s happened before, then it could happen again.  Also, they don’t know if you must put a deposit down, etc etc so really, if they intend on going they should have the money.  I wouldn’t worry about asking. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

No it’s not. Even for anyone who’s late in paying you. I think you should not be ashamed of asking for their part the day of or the day immediately afterwards. Don’t let them get away with it!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think that’s tacky. I think it’s necessary. You’re in charge of getting it all together but you’re not in charge of shouldering the cost of the entire thing! They gotta pay to play….

Two years ago my friend’s sister threw her bachelorette party and sent all us girls a cute invite. On the invitation it said, please either bring $X amount with you or mail a check for $X to blah blah blah. I didn’t think twice about it, nor did I think it was at all strange. Obviously participants are expected to pay for their portion. They may not like it, but that doesn’t make it tacky to ask for their fair share of the money.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s not tacky. Asking people for money for parties is always uncomfortable and I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to do it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i dont think its tacky at all. i planned a big bach party in vegas 2 years back. i made all the girls send money before i booked anything. everyone was excited when i gave them the price ($250/person), but i refused to book anything until i got cash in hand. wouldnt you know it, like 3 girls didnt send money but kept telling me they planned to come. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hard times means drastic measures!  I would totally do the same thing!  My money is precious too so there’s nothing wrong in asking for a “deposit!”

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it’s tacky at ALL!

Its better for them too – they now what is expected of them!

I say go for it!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Not tacky; necessary. I would do the same thing.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Agree with the rest of the posters, not tacky at all! Unfortunately, it is often the organizer’s job of any party to collect the money.  Not fun but so NOT tacky to ask for it! It’s not like you should be expected to front it all!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think its tacky! You do what you gotta do to get paid!! :]

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

i dont think it’s tacky at all.  just because you’re planning it does not mean you should also front money for people.  I would definitely ask for the money up front.  The last wedding I was in, the MOH gave us a print out with the estimate of how much the entire weekend would cost.  that included everything, hotel, dinners, activities, etc.  We sent her the money up front and she took care of ALL the payments, buying props and decor, paying for spa and dinner, etc.   She kept all the receipt and at the end reimburst us for the small differnce in actual cost.  it worked out great because it didn’t put a huge burden on her and she didn’t have to chase after anyone for money.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can see where you friend may think it’s tacky (it sounds like you don’t trust them, etc) but in reality, THIS IS LIFE! For high-dollar things I ask for payment up front. For cheap stuff (IE a hotel room we’re all splitting and the total cost is like $55), i don’t really worry about it. I would feel like it was PERFECTLY NORMAL and legit (and expected!!!) for me to receive an email saying “hey you owe XX for the bachelorette party! Send me a check, thanks!)

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