Post # 1
When I ordered the invitations I forgot to add a reception card basically saying please join us for dinner and dancing blah blah. So we DIYed it and it came out great. Now we are having as close to an adult reception as possible – # of kids was just too many. My little sister who is in the wedding will be there she’s 11. My flower girl will be there, and 2 other close close family members will be there (13 and 17) So on the reception card we made we said
“The magic continues…..
Please join us for the adult reception
immediately following the ceremony
on the adventure lawn
followed by dinner and dancing
blah blah place place
What do you guys think? Should we make new ones that don’t say Adult reception? Is it tacky or rude? Because it is on our wedding website, and we are addressing only to the adults of the family. On the website it says “due to restrictions in the venue please look into babysitting for your little ones as we are trying to have as close to an all adult recpetion as possible” and then lists babysitting options. So what does the hive think, but hurry because thess invites need to go out asap!
Post # 3
Well, it’s fine to just have some kids and not others. It works best when you have clear cut offs – first cousins, nieces/nephews, wedding party, etc. That’s completely fine. BUT you’re not then having an adult only reception.
It’s rude to put that on invites anyway, but it’s even worse when it’s not true. You may have to call up parents who RSVP with their kids, but you’ll have to do that anyway because people think their little ones are special and deserve and exception. Make sure you address things just to the parents. By the way, I’d just list babysitting services and take the rest off of the wedding website. It sounds like you’re not 100% committed to no kids – just that you want parents to try not to bring them. I’d be a bit confused as a parent.
Post # 4
The words “Adult Reception” put thoughts of strippers and the like in my head. It is probably just me. I would say something like “Adult guests are welcome to join us…”
Post # 5
I think that sounds just fine 🙂
Post # 6
Adults only is a touchy subject round these parts, but I went against convention and put “Adults Only, Please” on my invitations. I didn’t want any question about who was invited and risk hurt feelings later on. I, personally, feel that you are fine and people will understand the children who were in the wedding being there and probably won’t think anything about the 17 year old. The 13 year old may make people think twice, but they’ll probably assume his/her parents just didn’t follow directions and not blame you.
I know my response probably won’t be popular, but you have to do what’s going to work for you and your guests.
Post # 7
adults on the adventure lawn …possibly rude 😉 hehe… sorry i’m joking. i don’t see why saying exactly what you mean should be seen as rude or tacky, more confusion happens when people try to tiptoe around what they are trying to say.
a third of my quests will be under 18 i will highlight this to my guests on the invite by saying something like ‘its a family affair bring the kids 🙂 but i might work on that a bit.
Post # 8
I think your wording is perfectly polite and clear. I see it written that way all the time, always well received.
Post # 9
I think that its fine…. Thats how I plan on having it worded for my invites… I dont want alot of kids at my wedding, and I would make it clear that those involved in the wedding are invited… if you want them there address the invite
Mr. and Mrs so and so
Miss so and so
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Post # 10
@WhiteWedding: Thanks! It’s a touchy and hard thing. We have no qualms with kids but due to space restrictions, budget, and just wanting it to be a bit more of a an adult atmosphere we decided to only have those kids there that had to be there pretty much. The 13 year old is the the sister of the flower girl. So she can watch her and keep her in line.
Post # 11
13 and 17 year olds might not even be concidered kids to some people as they are teens and if your flower girl is in the wedding people should get it-
if they don’t that is theire issue- I assume most people would like to have a fun kid free couple hours and enjoy having a specail time to themselfs to share with you-
I read most people don’t bring kids anyway and if you want to have them you hve to invite them specifiically i have been letting everyone know the opisite of you and saying FAMIlY freindly event- etc. you could prepair a few small activitys for kids if they do show up or the ones that are coming ( coloring pages or something-)
if you want =]
I don’t think saying Adult is rude though! its fine!