(Closed) Is this teeny tiny progress?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d suggest just talking to him about it.. impossible to guess.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I do think that selling or getting rid of his ex-wife’s wedding band is a step in the right direction.  He may still not be ready at this point, but it does seem like he taking another step away from his first marriage and towards a future with you.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Hard to say.  I say give it some time and talk to him about it when the moment seems right.

 

Good luck, he sounds like a great guy.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It’s not that tiny – selling the ex’s band would possibly allow him to put soemthing away for soemthing for you, and it shows that he’s trying to get past the hurt and let go of his previous life.  I’m not saying break out the champagne, but it’s a really good signal he cares about you and might be looking to a future, even if the “m” word isn’t immediately in it 🙂  If it comes up, tell him how you feel and then leave it at that – let him know it’s HIS decision, especially if he felt pressured in his former relationship.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if you’ve been together 2 years and everything’s great and he’s wonderful, but you’re not engaged/married yet, it’s totally OK!  It’s rude of people to say stuff like “why aren’t you married yet?”  It’s none of their business and honestly 2 years is not that long.  After you move in together and your relationship becomes more like a husband/wife then you guys can start thinking about marriage.

I was with my FI for 4 years before he popped the question (though I’m only 23 now), and all the people in my office who are in their 20’s and married were together at least 4 years before they got married.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@prshadow:  I absolutely think that this means he’s ready to put things from the past behind him. . .or at least REALLY start too. 

IMHO, that’s more than a teeny tiny step. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I dont think like this sounds like progress.  Maybe he just wants to make some money off of a piece of jewelry tht he doesnt want.  If he was serious about asking you he would talk to you about it.  He would say something to you about marriage.  If he cant even say the word marriage then there is a problem

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