Post # 1
I found a beautiful hairstyle for my wedding and I love it! It’s piecey, if that makes sense, and has a lot of pinned curls.
Thing about it is, one of my bridesmaids is like “I’ll probably wear my hair like that too”, completely dead serious. I just turned and was like “wellll, its time for bed!”.
Seriously, I’m not hard to deal with, but what do you say? You know, its my day and a hair is a HUGE detail that we all worry about, along with the dress, the cake, etc. Am I beng a bridezilla, or seriously, should she be a bit more considerate of “there are certain things you let the bride have to herself”?
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla… yet. I think you’re within your right to ask that she do something different. You don’t have to stomp your foot and say, “This is my day and I won’t allow it”. Just say politely that you’d rather she not do the same style, the end. I’m sure she had no idea that it’d bother you and she most likely won’t have a problem with changing the style. No biggie!
Post # 4
Right! No, I dont want to be some bratty bride and demand that she doesn’t. It isnt worth having a tisk over. But I just needed some outside input on how to react, and maybe get an idea on how someone else would feel. Thank you!!
Post # 5
I hate to be your worst nightmare, but do you have a picture of this hairstyle? I’ve been stumped on hair styles for a while and I do have curly hair, and I’d like it to be curly for the wedding, thanks!
Also, I wouldn’t worry about the whole bridezilla thing. It would be a little funny to both have the same hairdo–maybe in a joking tone, just say “haha, that would be a little weird, we’d look like twins, I’ll find you an awesome hairstyle don’t worry.” or SOMETHING along those lines. Good luck!!!
Post # 6
LOL no I don’t think you are being a bridezilla. Who wants to have the same exact hair as their BMs? Hopefully she’ll snap out of that one soon.
Post # 7
Haha! No, you are not being a bridezilla. A bridezilla would find the Bridesmaid or Best Man while she was alseep and shave her head!!! I agree with the girls above, just tell her that you think she should do her hair a different way and help her find a style that would flatter her.
Post # 8
That is not bridzillay, you have every right not to want her hair the same as yours. I would simply tell her that you don’t really want the BM’s hair to be the same as yours. I have been in weddings were the bride completely picked out our hair, i had no problem with this as it was her day.
Post # 9
@Gingercurls–It’s actually not on this computer, but google “Eva Longoria updos 2010” and I know you’ll see one you fall in love with! I love her style.
All other brides—THANK YOU. I thought maybe for a second I was going over-the-top with being bossy!!! lol.
Post # 10
I don’t think you’re being over the top. Depending on your relationship with her, I’d either say something light about not wanting to look like clones, or say “oh, I actually was hoping all the bridesmaids would have something with braids / buns / hair down (or some other broad category of hair style”. I don’t think it’s nuts not to want her to have the same style as you, but at the same time some brides want their maids to have similar do’s to them, so that everyone looks pulled together. She might actually have said it because she thought that’s what you wanted! This far out asking her to choose another style should be no big deal.
Post # 11
If you have to ask if you are a bridezilla, you aren’t. The ones who are are the ones who are oblivious to the way they are acting. 😉