- 3 years ago
I need some advice, because I feel I’m going crazy..
I am in distant relationship for 4 years. We see each other every 2-3 months. Two years ago we got engaged.
Problems started when he lost his job, 3 years ago (yes!). Since then, he’s been filling his time with friends, tv and games. Serious gaming started like 1,5 year ago and since then it’s the same pattern every day: waking up around noon and then – playing until 3 AM. Looking for job? No way..
This is the time where things went wrong. We stopped talking to each other, mostly texting 3-4 times a day. IF a conversation occures, it’s me asking questions to keep it going – otherwise it’s silence. I told him how important to me is communication and he promised to change, but the very next day everything is back to “normal”. I feel ignored, left behind and not important to him. Feel like he doesn’t care, though he denies and says he loves me and misses me.
In a way, I can understand that games are his way to escape. But on the other hand, I see his lack of respect towards my feelings. Occasional incidents with other girls, dissapearing for a day, putting the blame on me for my misery and making me feel guilty. I feel humiliated that some game is more important than me.
I’m stuck with my own life. He wants me to move to him, but when I ask about money issues and how are we going to get money for living – I only get an anser of: we will manage somehow. How exactly? That he doesn’t say…
I love him, very much and it’s killing me to see things going apart. At this point, I’m scared to marry him, scared to even think about it. I have no delusions, he will never change, unless he wants to. The thing is, I don’t believe he does.
After long years of investing in this relationship, showing love, support – I am tired. Is this time to leave?