is this to complicated?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is this complicated?
    Yes - change it - (please put an Idea below) : (19 votes)
    61 %
    No - I looks great! (keep it the way it is) : (7 votes)
    23 %
    A : (1 votes)
    3 %
    B : (2 votes)
    6 %
    C : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    It is kind of complicated. I would do the whole “We have reserved ______ seats in your honor.” and then have a column for # of entrees with a box next to each dish.

    Like this (forgive my janky Skitch pic):

    Post # 4
    213 posts
    Helper bee

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  NO OMG THIS IS PERFECT.  Seriously, I want to do someting very similar. It’s perfect if you’re having a strict seating plan and the caterer needs to know what seats get what food (because they don’t know one person from the next)

    Post # 5
    3229 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    It makes sense to me! Would you actually put in the guests’ names? As in, you’d print a different card for each RSVP?

    I also asked FI, and he said it made sense to him, haha.

    Post # 6
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It was at first, but I think if the names are actually written in it, it would make sense right away! 

    I personaly would change the diestry restrictions line so it’s the same orientation of the “return” line, and flip them around so accept/decline was on top and the meal choices were on the bottom (when held like the photo is currently). But those are just my changes, and I think it would be fine as is!

    Post # 8
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  I like that you have their specific names. I don’t think you need to say the dietary restrictions part. If they have more specific diet than vegetarian, they could call you about it or take medication like for lactose intolerate. I don’t know if I like the sideways rsvp date…. maybe put it in between the two sections.

    Post # 9
    498 posts
    Helper bee

    I like it but I’d probably put the accepts/decline part at the top. It seems natural to answer that first before going on to choosing food, especially if the person declines. 

    Post # 11
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    It works (and I like the look / layout)

    It also has more a “traditional” element to it… with each Guest’s Name & Choice appearing

    (And from that you would be able to make up individual Place Cards with a “tell” for the Serving Staff… so they know what each Guest is to be served **… helps when they are setting up and do an overview of their tables beforehand… and less interruptions to the Guests too)

    BUT as @EffieTrinket: said more and more Brides are going the more modern route now and using the “Reserved seats in your honour” format cause sadly, people tend to add-on additonal people (don’t understand the complexities of an Invitation, and that the Inner Envelope conveys WHO exactly is invited)

    The one thing you have to bear in mind, is with your format, that if you have a family with more than 2 Guests in attendance (ie 3, 4, 5), you’ll have to include extra RSVP Cards in the mail-out.

    Hope this helps,

    ** Tells can be the colour of the Place Card… or some incorporated element on them… such as a Red Star means Steak, Yellow Star = Chicken, Blue Star = Fish, Green Star = Vegetarian… and a DOT instead of a Star means that there has been a SPECIAL MEAL ordered, and the Server needs to have a conversation with that Guest.


    Post # 12
    3787 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I could do it correctly, and thing it’s simple enough but I can almost guarantee you most of my family would totally mess it up beyond recognition. 


    Post # 14
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  Ooooh like that you changed the names to the food choice. Most recent edit is MUCH better, I like the sideways words on the left better layout wise.

    Post # 15
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @AndysCraftsNmore:  this is my favourite version. I think its straight forward and I wouldnt be confused as a guest to receive it. It’s creative and I like it a lot! 

    Post # 16
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @EffieTrinket:  I was totally cracking up at “some sort of chicken with a sauce maybe.” Perfect!

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