Is this too Bridezilla?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

I showed my BMs some of my inspiration pics so they had a feel for what I wanted the bridal party to look like. I showed them these pics about 13 months before the wedding date but we didn’t actually start looking at dresses properly until about 10 months before. A couple of them wanted to lose weight and didn’t feel comfortable picking a dress when they weren’t really sure how it would fit on their new body shapes.

Post # 4
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That sounds pretty reasonable. I would suggest clarifying what you want in terms of colour – all the same shade, shades of the same colour or whatever they like. 

Post # 5
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@waddle:  for dessy they can also add thick straps (from extra material) or spaghetti straps

you might want to include the name fo the colour (specifically, ie not just blue…but sapphire blue) or colour range, even if youve told them previously

the next question id ask if i were them is if any length is acceptable or not, and any material (nu georgette, satin, chiffon etc. dessy has a lot of options ). if you really spell it out you wont get emails back asking questions. as chiffon and satin together do look very different – it might not bother you but you need to be sure.




eg i said




floor length, chiffon, dessy, sapphire blue – any style. which still gave about ten + choices.




Post # 6
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@waddle:  It comes across as nice and polite to me! Like a PP said, you’ve said nothing about colour. So I think you should either specify the colour; or if you only want their input on style and rather than colour, then say that.

Post # 7
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It sounds great! Something is a bit funny with your first sentence though:

“I know that the is not until wedding next year”

Do you mean, “I know that the wedding is not until next year”?

Post # 8
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it sounds just fine and not zilla at all.

If I were your bridesmaid, though, I’d want a little more direction than that.

There’s nothing I fear more than being part of a wedding party where the bride says “oh, just pick whatever you’d like,” especially if the others all know one another. Even if you give a color, like blue, it’s tricky. That’s pretty much a recipe for three bridesmaids showing up in variations on the same knee-length sky blue lace, and me awkwardly showing up in floor-length navy satin. 


Post # 9
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

sounds perfect, but it’s so far away that everybody’s going to archive it and not remember a thing when they have to order it.

Post # 10
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think you sound like a bridezilla at all!

Post # 12
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@waddle:  One thing, are your BMs on facebook?  Mine are and I asked around here and they suggested I make a bridal party facebook group.  I did and it came in real handy.  Like others said the email may get archived.  I was 2000 miles away from my BMs so it helped and it tells you in the group who saw the message.  And the group can be private as well.

Another suggestion, convertible dresses ordered to their specific measurements from Etsy.  I had the girls do this as I knew it could be difficult for them to get to a shop to try on dresses etc.  I didn’t want to worry about girls not ordering their dress on time and have a last minute nightmare the seller I choose was very accomodating.  Also there were no alterations saving them much money and 3 of 4 will wear the dress again.  The seller was super flexible and put up with me for a whole year lol.  

I say this because like you I wanted a certain shade and length and like you I told them no strapless this will be in a church.  One girl still at the last minute was told by my teenaged BMs to cover up a bit more and solved that problem for me lol but if your girls are busty their girls might still be out so you might want to be more specific or send inspiration pics that show no clevage.  


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