Post # 1
Help me decide if this is too casual for the groomsmen:
We don’t want the guys to have to spend $140 on a tux rental, especially when the only place that rents GRAY tuxes is Men’s Wearhouse….plus you don’t get to keep it! So we thought we’d have them purchase suits instead…but we’re not that in love with that idea, either as many of them have stated they don’t really “need” a suit.
So here’s our final option: Nix the suit and have the guys dress in the same pants, a black shirt, and tie. Find a pair of pants we really like from Express, Gap, or Macy’s, etc. and have the guys buy the pair we choose. They’ll also buy their own black shirt, so they can obviously choose how cheap to go with that. And we’ll provide the tie.
Fiance still wants to wear a suit himself (will probably be a darker gray), so he stands out and is more formal next to me.
My bridesmaids all chose their own dress, however it’s formal-looking because they’re all long. This is what they’ll look like:
Is this idea for the groomsmen too cheap looking and informal?
Post # 3
I personally would think the grey suits are too casual next to your maids. If they were having more casual dresses, than grey suits would work.
I think something a little more formal for the men would be best.
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Any other opinions would be appreciated!
Post # 6
I agree with pp, the BM dresses you’ve selected are pretty formal, and set the tone quite a bit. Maybe you could rent matching vests for over the dress shirt to fancy it up a little?
I know here we can rent a vest & tie for 11$ and we live in the middle of nowhere, so I would look around if you’re interested in that possibility.
Post # 7
It sounds too casual to me, most of your male guests will be wearing suits if you’re having a formal or semi-formal wedding. The men are standing up in a wedding, that comes with expense. Didn’t the expect to buy or rent a suit/tux?? I also believe that every man should own a suit- they go to weddings, funerals, christenings, job interviews, etc. right?
Post # 8
I agree that the guys will look way less formal than the ladies, without suits. I, however, don’t agree that the greay suits will make them look less formal. I was in a wedding where we had formal dresses and they guys rented grey tuxes. it looked great.
Post # 9
Here is another option, if you would like the guys to go with the less formal you want to make the bridesmaids dresses a little less formal. Maybe a knee length dress.
Post # 10
Jim’s Formal Wear has 2 different styles of grey tuxes. We are going through a local bridal boutique that orders tuxes in through them. Men’s Wearhouse did not have their grey Calvin Klein tux available for July wedding. Anyway the one we are going with from Jim’s is a darker grey and more formal style, they also have a light grey very similar to the Men’s Wearhouse one. I think with long BM dresses the boys really need to be in a tux or very nice suit. I was in a wedding once where I had to wear a long black satin dress and the boys, including the groom, were in dress pants, shirt and tie. I thought it looked odd and didn’t make sense.
Post # 11
If the GM will be more casual, your BM will need to be as well. Knee-length chiffon dresses is my suggestion. Have more of a summery soft look for the BM.
Post # 12
Have you looked at http://www.overstock.com ?
They have suits from around $80. I’m guessing the bridesmaids paid more than that for their dresses.
Post # 13
I think gray pants with a black shirt is almost ok, as long as the dress shirt is a very nice dress shirt, perhaps with a satin pinstripe. I think a matching gray vest would add that formal touch. As long as they have nice shoes, I think they will look quite well together, and are a much better option than suits for a summer wedding.
It is fine, even preferable, to let your FI stand out from the groomsmen.
Post # 14
I agree with pp. I think it would look weird with your BMs looking so formal and the GMs not… I had the same problem with my FI’s groomsmen. None of them ‘needed’ a suit. Well…they need one for the wedding!
I found some great deals on eBay for suits. I think the GMs aren’t paying more than $70 for their suit.
Post # 15
I agree that your bridesmaids are too formal for your GM options. My girls are wearing knee length to mid calf length black dresses. Our GM are wearing black dress pants and black dress shirt (of their choosing) and we are provding the purple tie. They are also wearing Chuck Taylors. Our girls are wearing black shoes (of their choosing) and I am getting accessories for all of them to match the ties.
The only thing that isn’t going to be casual is going to be myself and FI, who will be wearing a tux since I stumbled upon an actual fancier wedding dress.
So, IMO, your wedding party needs to be of the same level of casual or not casual.
Post # 16
Normally I would say that it wouldnt be to casual.. but with your girls looking so formal in long gowns it may look very mis matched and out of place. If they were in short dresses then it wouldnt be as noticible. But at the end of the day its your wedding and if your okay with it then you should do it.