Post # 1
So, the church FI and I are getting married at is about 30 minutes from where FI and his family and friends live, it’s about 5 minutes from my house and most of my friends and family live nearby. Surprisingly, FMIL offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, and she said she would like to have it at this Italian place that is about 30-45 minutes from the church. This would make it about an hour or so for the people who live near FI. Our rehearsal is going to start at 6, and hopefully be done at 7. I’m planning on everybody being out of the church by 7:15. If we leave then, we wouldn’t get to the restraunt until 7:45-ish. This just seems so late to me to start eatting and everything that goes with the dinner part. I just feel bad for those who have an hour + drive home the night before the wedding when we will all be getting up early (The boys are playing golf at the @$$-crack of dawn, and the girls will be getting pretty) the next morning. Starting the whole shebang at 5 isn’t something I want to do, because most of our bridal party and people involved in the ceremony won’t be off work in time.
I really like the place that FMIL wants to have the dinner, so that doesn’t help either!
If you were in the bridal party and had to drive 30 minutes to the church, then 30 minutes again for dinner, and then an hour or so to get back home that late, would be you upset? or would you just be happy that you are getting really good free food?
Post # 3
Some of them can carpool though right? That’s actually what some of my guests will be doing I think. My FMIL will be driving 25 min to the rehearsal, 20 min to dinner, and then have about a 45 min drive home. Same thing with my officiant but opposite direction. People live all over so I think the restaurant is more important although not too much further away than that! It will be broken up so they probably won’t realize.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t mind driving, especially if the restaurant is good. I had a few people come to the rehearsal dinner who lived an hour away. Sometimes it’s just hard to pick a centralized location for everyone!
Post # 5
I really wouldn’t mind it. I know a lot of people who had their weddings or rehearsals outside of town. In any case, don’t feel bad having people drive an hour, lots of people have destination weddings requiring their guests to fly or drive hours upon hours for all the wedding events.
Post # 6
I think it’s too far. I’d probably politely say no thanks to dinner and head home instead so I could get ready and have an early night.
If you get to the restaurant just before 8, have dinner for 2 hours and then head home it’d be around 11pm by the time people get back at the earliest.
Do you have any other options closer to the church or closer to where people live?
Post # 7
I think I would mind, especially if I had to get up early the next day for the wedding.
Post # 8
too far in my opinion and it would be stressful having to herd all those people around to all those different places. have it somewhere closer to the other events.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t mind. I mean, it isn’t like they are driving from home to the place. It’s broken up with time. 30 minutes from home or work to church. Then 30 minutes from church to dinner. The only thing that might suck is the drive home but honestly, it will be good for them to wind down in the car and be ready for bed when they get home. Sounds good!
Also, all my dinner reservations are for 8pm and after, so starting dinner around then is fine!
Post # 10
You’re going to be stuck fielding phone calls from half the dinner party who get lost on the way. I see that location as being really stressful. I would pick somewhere a lot closer.
Post # 11
That’s why my family is always the ever-annoying caravan of cars on the highway backing everything up, lol! We always follow each other everywhere – even though we all have GPS’s. I guess old habits die hard 😛