Post # 1
I have 6 Bridesmaids for an outdoor rustic/ country wedding. Recently I have seen a few friends get married and have felt that some of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were inappropriate, mainly tooooo short! I think just above the knee is short enough for a wedding. Which is one of the guidelines I have given my girls as t the dress style. I want them to like their dress and look good. Here are the guidelines I have given them:
1. Color range (we are selecting from the most popular colors of th season so it wont be too hard to find)
2. Not strapless (some of the girls have a tendancy to wear strapless and they dont “wear” them well ***saggy boobs **** I didn’t not give reason to them, just said no strapless)
3. Length is to be just above the knee
4. The dress will be paired with cowboy boots so the style needs to be rustic/ country – to go with the theme
5. I would really like all the girls to wear a waisted belt (they will all have the same belt which I will buy)
The girls will be paying for their dress but I dont want them to be paying a boatload of money for a one timer dress (hopefully they can wear it again!) I hope to keep the dress around $40-$70 (unless they are comfortable paying more). With these guidelines am I being unreasonable in asking them to keep the dress within? I just feel like my girls keep “suggesting” other options and their ideals of what dress they want, and thats ok, but at some point I want them to realize this is my wedding.
Post # 3
Are you allowing them to wear different dresses? I think maybe it might be hard for them to find a dress that meets all requirements or they are just unable to visualize your vision. So maybe just send them a few links to dresses you do like?
I don’t think you sound to demanding, especially because you keep de dresses within a reasonable prize and you are giving the belts.
Post # 4
I feel like if you have those stipulations, maybe pick out like 5 -10 dresses that fit your criteria, send a picture of all to the girls and let them choose their favourites from there. The price point is great, but I feel like you will end up with a lot of variation here, especially since you want them to be worn with cowboy boots and with a belt. Do the girls already own cowboy boots?
Post # 5
I think it’s a little detailed.
For the saggy boobs part.. I mean.. surely they’d be wearing a strapless bar or something with it? So they shouldn’t be ALL that saggy?!
It might be an issue to find dresses within your price ranges, that also fit all of your criteria.
As with pp’s, I would suggest finding a few dresses that you like and make suggestions. If you can’t find ones you like with your own criteria.. how will your girls?
Post # 6
@LadyIrene: +1 to sending ideas/stores to get these dresses so they have an idea of what you want. It’s hard to visualize exasctly what you want.
Post # 7
@LadyIrene: oh yes they will be differe dresses – there are some very different body types which one dress will jus not look good from one girl to the other
@jlc3: they all already have boots. I thought the same thing about the 5-10 dresses but they keep sending me links and photos of what about this – not at all in the criteria, so i say “oh yeah thats nice but *its too sort *I dont like strapless *its too formal etc etc. I dont want to tell them NO its my wedding do what I say, but with 6 girls and all their ideas, phew this is tough!
Post # 8
@avonleaR: Sounds good to me. If you insisted on strapless I’d be upset. I’d then have to find a strapless bra etc.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s that unreasonable, mainly because you are giving them a small budget which is awesome. I hate it when brides are like “here, buy this $200 dress that you hate. my day, my decision!”
Take a look at lulus.com or some other inexpensive dress websites to get some more inspiration and send them some photo examples of stuff you like. It might help them if they are able to see it visually rather than try to imagine what you are looking for.
Post # 10
I did the same thing with my BM’s. Same color (black), langth (floor) and they had to compliment eachother as well as my dress (obviously lol), I also askd them t0 wear flats. They paid for their own dresses ( which were alot more expensif than i originally thought) so im being a little more leniant on the shoes, one of my girls has a pair of really low heals that will look nice so shes going to wear those. I really dont think your being demanding, you arnt making them all wear the same dress and it isnt 600 dollars so i think your being VERY reasonable
Post # 11
I’m very short torsoed, with a petite frame, and am mostly leg, so the “knee length dress” is pretty much never knee length for me. That would be the only thing I might personally have difficulty with.
Otherwise, everything else seems very reasonable.
Post # 12
I dont think it is all that unreasonable. I would show them a selection of dresses that you think are suitable and get them to choose from those.
Post # 13
Requirements sound reasonable to me!
Post # 14
I think it’s reasonable. You’re giving them a myriad of choices on color, straps, even style, and you’re considerate with the budget for the dresses, too. Send some photo ideas to them of what you want, and it is perfectly acceptable for your voice to be heard among all the suggestions.
Post # 15
@avonleaR: ahhh I see. Yeah, i can see how that might be frustrating. Do you have Pinterest? Or can you create a board with the type of dresses you like maybe if you show them your inspiration, they might be able to focus their search a bit better?
Post # 16
It’s reasonable but if I were your bm I would want you to send links/pics/examples. It’s pretty stressful to try and find a dress that fits the brides vision.
Keep in mind that model pics almost always make dresses look shorter than they would be on a person of avg height