Is this totally ungrateful of me?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just be honest with him and tell him that you changed your mind!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes youre being ungrateful, just by defintion.. engagement rings are no longer about the man choosing a ring and giving it to his lady and meaning something greater about his love and wanting to commit toy ou for the rest of his life.. 

and if you are the kind of person who will be miserable about it then u should tell him. personally my DH would have been offended/crushed/hurt if i felt that way but i feel differently than you do. But i belive in communication more than i belive in engagement rings. so just tell him what u want. pleanty of people prefer moissanite becasue its extra shiny and pretty and also cost effective.. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@happilyeveraftergirl:  People are assholes. A starter ring? Who says that? Please try and focus on the meaning/symbolism behind the ring not the actual aesthetics of it. In the grand scheme of things, none of that matters. It was a gift and I hope you can graciously accept it from the man who wants to spend his life with you 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Kandiss16:  +1, my FI would be offended to and I don’t blame him. My ring is smaller than we can afford per say but we don’t care about that. We’d rather direct funds elsewhere. I have gotten a few asshole comments myself, but I just ignore those folks or say something snarky back.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Bostongrl25:  LOL you really made me chuckle at my desk…

I have nothing more to add.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Kandiss16:  She already picked the ring, though. He didn’t choose this one for her.

OP, I would just explain the situation to your guy. Since you picked it and it wasn’t very expensive (on your urging), I doubt he’ll be *that* crushed.

There are enough threads on here about moissanite that you can do a search and have tons of research at your fingertips. It might help you decide what to do.

Post # 14
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@happilyeveraftergirl:  So your ring was fine until people started putting thoughts in your head….

don’t be so heavily influenced by others. It’s not a good sign of the maturity that is needed to go into a marriage. Keep the ring that you were initially happy with, without the comments.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Bostongrl25:  +1

This thread will self-destruct in 4, 3, 2…

Post # 16
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@canarydiamond:  she didnt add that until after i posted.. might hav changed my answer then.. 

ETA: with that new information..i dont think ungrateful is the right word.. indecisive? influenced by shallow people? it might be an akward conversation, espcially telling him WHY you changed ur mind, but since he wanted you to pick it out it sounds like he would be fine with it. 

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