Post # 1
My fiance picked out my ring and I together because he knew I am very picky. It has a .09 center diamond surounded by smaller diamonds. I am very uncomfortable with him spending lots of money on a ring. I’ve always been a litle too practical for my own good..
I can’t help but want a bigger ring now though! So many people have commented to me that it looks like a “nice starter ring” and that I should “upgrade eventually.” Even though many people have said this, I still don’t want to have my fiance spend a ton of money on a diamond. It’s just not who I am.
My ring would be able to be reset with four center prongs to hold a square larger diamond. But is a moissanite acceptable? I love the idea of one! How do I talk to my fiance about this??
Edit: I know a lot of people say to keep the first ring because it has special meaning, but I picked it out so I don’t feel a ton of special meaning with it.. even if that is awful. I wouldn’t replace the entire ring! Just the center diamonds for one .80 moissanite.
Post # 4
I would just be honest with him and tell him that you changed your mind!
Post # 5
Yes youre being ungrateful, just by defintion.. engagement rings are no longer about the man choosing a ring and giving it to his lady and meaning something greater about his love and wanting to commit toy ou for the rest of his life..
and if you are the kind of person who will be miserable about it then u should tell him. personally my DH would have been offended/crushed/hurt if i felt that way but i feel differently than you do. But i belive in communication more than i belive in engagement rings. so just tell him what u want. pleanty of people prefer moissanite becasue its extra shiny and pretty and also cost effective..
Post # 6
@happilyeveraftergirl: People are assholes. A starter ring? Who says that? Please try and focus on the meaning/symbolism behind the ring not the actual aesthetics of it. In the grand scheme of things, none of that matters. It was a gift and I hope you can graciously accept it from the man who wants to spend his life with you 🙂
Post # 7
I always wanted a moissanite but when we got to our jewelry store, the woman made us feel very rushed and anxious. She wanted us to make a decision ASAP and get out of there. It made the process kind of upsetting to me because I expected a lovely day of ring picking! I know it is my OWN fault that I didn’t trust my instincts and leave the store.. but I LOVE LOVE LOVE the setting! I am crazy about the setting! I just don’t like the small center diamond surrounded by smaller diamonds.
Also, two of the diamonds are uneven. So it is not even a square. It is misshapen.
Post # 8
@Kandiss16: +1, my FI would be offended to and I don’t blame him. My ring is smaller than we can afford per say but we don’t care about that. We’d rather direct funds elsewhere. I have gotten a few asshole comments myself, but I just ignore those folks or say something snarky back.
Post # 9
Right?? A starter ring? And I picked it out! So I don’t feel particularly attached to it.. He felt very overwhelmed at the store too and rushed to pick out a ring so he didn’t even have a real say in the ring! I felt like we stopped at a fast food place to get a burger it went by so quick! Luckily, the setting can be replaced with one center stone instead of the oddly shaped ones.
Yes, I know it is my fault for not standing up to the jewelry store employee in the first place!
Post # 10
@Bostongrl25: LOL you really made me chuckle at my desk…
I have nothing more to add.
Post # 11
@Kandiss16: She already picked the ring, though. He didn’t choose this one for her.
OP, I would just explain the situation to your guy. Since you picked it and it wasn’t very expensive (on your urging), I doubt he’ll be *that* crushed.
There are enough threads on here about moissanite that you can do a search and have tons of research at your fingertips. It might help you decide what to do.
Post # 13
@canarydiamond: Thank you! I feel like a bit of an idiot because he just kept urging me before we went to pick out what I wanted. And me being the frugal idiot that I am, did not… I just fell in love with the setting!
Post # 14
@happilyeveraftergirl: So your ring was fine until people started putting thoughts in your head….
don’t be so heavily influenced by others. It’s not a good sign of the maturity that is needed to go into a marriage. Keep the ring that you were initially happy with, without the comments.
Post # 15
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Post # 16
@canarydiamond: she didnt add that until after i posted.. might hav changed my answer then..
ETA: with that new information..i dont think ungrateful is the right word.. indecisive? influenced by shallow people? it might be an akward conversation, espcially telling him WHY you changed ur mind, but since he wanted you to pick it out it sounds like he would be fine with it.