Post # 1
I’m starting to shop for my wedding band and have been doing some research. My engagement ring is 14 kt white gold, but most of the wedding bands that I have found are 10 kt gold. I’ve already determined that visually there isn’t really a difference other than that 14 kt will likely have more scratches on it over time; however, I did read on these boards that the rubbing of the harder 10 kt gold up against the softer 14 kt gold will produce more wear on the 14 kt gold than if both rings were 14 kt.
Is this true?? I can’t seem to find any information on this anywhere else, such as through Google. If it is true, is this a really big problem or is it just a minor difference in wear? I will not be soldering my bands together if that makes a difference.
Post # 3
@Chani: I’m not sure exactly, but I know where gold is concerned, it’s best that they match. I have a sterling silver w-band with a palladium e-ring, and I’ve had no problems at all.
Post # 4
Tougher metals definitely wear away at softer metals. Many factors will play into how much wear exactly. I recommend getting a 14k band so you never have to worry about that or have ring regret. Most places will do the same ring in 14k, you’ll just have to pay a bit more.
Post # 5
@Chani: Generally speaking, a lower karat gold should be ‘harder’ than a higher karat. The actual gold is the soft element in the alloy, while the other materials used, like nickel, is the hard element. Therefore the less gold karat, the more of harder marterials are used, resulting in a harder ring overall.
I’m sure there are different 10k/14k alloys various jewelers use that can be harder/softer than other alloys, but you’ll have to speak with them directly about that (preferably somewhere that does all their work in house)
I don’t have any experience mixing different karats personally, but I’ve heard the same advice time and time again from multiple places and people, to use the same material for both rings.
Post # 6
Gold rubbing together is a bit of a problem. After 3 years, I was told I either need to solder, or I would start losing stones due to the metal rubbing. So there is no way I could wear them like that for life. I no longer wear that set daily, but if I had wanted to, I would have had to solder, to not destroy the 2 rings.
Post # 7
I got my rings soldered to prevent rubbing.
Post # 8
My first wedding set was 10k holed ering and a 14k wring. Both white gold. The Rhodium wore of the14 quicker but no noticeable damage done to either ring. both were very sturdy channel set rings tho. To be safe get the same karat. 🙂
Post # 9
I heard this somewhere too. I was actually having the opposite problem. My e-ring is 10k and I was only finding 14k wedding bands. I didn’t want my e-ring to eat my wedding band so I just kept looking until I found a 10k wedding band.