Is this type of party for engaged couples a thing now?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1855 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t know if it is new but it is certainly tacky and I would avoid it.

Post # 4
5209 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MelBan:  I’ve never heard of that but it sounds ridiculous. And tacky.

Post # 5
6751 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Never heard of it.  If I were to EVER throw some sort of fundraising or discount-raising event, I would never tell anyone that was the purpose of the event.  It would be more like a recipe exchange party and I would provide professional cupcakes and everyone can bring their favorite cupcake recipes or something and I would try to make it fun and not all about raising a DISCOUNT.  This is just weird and ridiculous.

If you can’t afford your wedding, then plan one you can afford!!

Post # 7
1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I hope this isn’t a new thing… I personally think it’s inappropriate of them to hold a “pre-wedding function” that entails guests subsidizing their wedding in any way. On one hand, I kind of like the idea that me buying cupcakes (which I might want to buy anyway) gets my friends a discount. But the fact that they’re hosting this party themselves and causing you to feel obligated to attend leaves a sour taste in my mouth.

I feel like I’d be more likely to contribute if it was just an arrangement where a can stop by the bakery to buy something on a particular day, and mention their name for them to get the discount. That way guests wouldn’t feel pressured to attend this party and spend their money there. 


Post # 8
7493 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That would get a total decline from me.

Post # 9
731 posts
Busy bee

I don’t get what’s so offensive. No one is saying you have to go. They are being upfront that it’s for a discount. I’d probably go just because I like cupcakes and would WANT to buy some, and if that helps out my friends, then great.

There is no need to suck the fun out of everything by worrying about whether it’s “tacky” or not.

Post # 10
3463 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

that is really strange… I’d go because I like cupcakes, but it seems like you’re paying for part of their cake by buying cupcakes…lol

Post # 11
1855 posts
Buzzing bee

@lampshade:  When you invite your friends to a party where they are put on the spot to “help you out” it isn’t fun, it’s in really poor taste.

Post # 14
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah I think I’d have to “wash my hair” that day or something…

Post # 15
203 posts
Helper bee

I’ve never heard of this but I definitely don’t see what the big deal is.  I love any reason to throw a party or celebrate with friends.  Sampling cupcakes sounds like an okay time to me! If you don’t want the cupcakes or want to participate in the bride and groom receiving a discount then *gasp* don’t buy them!




Post # 16
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@MelBan:  Never heard of this, and it’s super tacky.

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