In dealing with the constant battle of the guest list (see post 'Does it ever end?'), I thought I might be able to make things more manageable by including several options on the RSVP card.
I have not seen that, but in some countries (I'm thinking of England and Canada) this is typical. Usually there is a morning, family-only ceremony (with maybe a small meal afterward) and then a bigger reception in the evening. That's a bit different than your issue though.
I've seen this before, although not often and wanted to do it for our RSVP...just wasn't sure how to word it.
We're having a destination wedding in Hawaii (getting married on a Thursday), but I do have a few local friends there so I'm thinking of doing the same thing since some of the locals will 'prolly be at work during the ceremony but might want to join us for the reception. Maybe I'll make them a seperate RSVP card with the above.
Surprisingly (to me) we had a few guests RSVP for the ceremony only or reception only. Turns out they had multiple weddings that day, and had to divide up their attendance. I hadn't provided for this on the RSVP - they just wrote it in the margin. It was nice to be able to have an accurate count for both.
I think it would be ok to do this. For our RSVPs we had a basic "number of people attending"-type of thing and had quite a few people include a note on the inside of the card. While the vast majority came to both the ceremony and reception, we also had quite a few that came to just one or the other due to a variety of reasons (another wedding that day, eldery couldn't drive in the dark, traveling that day, the day was shared with both a birthday AND an anniversary in the family, etc etc etc). If you think that it would help you, then go for it.
In dealing with the constant battle of the guest list (see post 'Does it ever end?'), I thought I might be able to make things more manageable by including several options on the RSVP card.
ChecK Will Attend:
___Ceremony Only
___Reception Only
___Ceremony and Reception
___Can not attend
Is this unheard of and completely ridiculous?
posted by BriLJL 99 posts 2 months agoI have not seen that, but in some countries (I'm thinking of England and Canada) this is typical. Usually there is a morning, family-only ceremony (with maybe a small meal afterward) and then a bigger reception in the evening. That's a bit different than your issue though.
posted by lulubelle 67 posts 2 months agoI've seen this before, although not often and wanted to do it for our RSVP...just wasn't sure how to word it.
We're having a destination wedding in Hawaii (getting married on a Thursday), but I do have a few local friends there so I'm thinking of doing the same thing since some of the locals will 'prolly be at work during the ceremony but might want to join us for the reception. Maybe I'll make them a seperate RSVP card with the above.
posted by nejireta 88 posts 2 months agoSurprisingly (to me) we had a few guests RSVP for the ceremony only or reception only. Turns out they had multiple weddings that day, and had to divide up their attendance. I hadn't provided for this on the RSVP - they just wrote it in the margin. It was nice to be able to have an accurate count for both.
posted by suzanno 1,978 posts 2 months agoI think it would be ok to do this. For our RSVPs we had a basic "number of people attending"-type of thing and had quite a few people include a note on the inside of the card. While the vast majority came to both the ceremony and reception, we also had quite a few that came to just one or the other due to a variety of reasons (another wedding that day, eldery couldn't drive in the dark, traveling that day, the day was shared with both a birthday AND an anniversary in the family, etc etc etc). If you think that it would help you, then go for it.
posted by NatalieL 56 posts 2 months ago