Post # 1
So I am a bridesmaids in my future sister in laws wedding (we are both engaged to brothers). She is really last minute and I am a planner.
So today she texts me saying “Sunday Shopping”, referring to dress shopping. No questionmark, not asking what I was up to…just “Sunday Shopping”. I text back saying I have stuff to do Sunday as it is close to the weekend, what timish and what city (Toronto or Hamilton, I live in Hamilton so close, Toronto is an hour away from me and presents more of a problem). She just says “you will be done by 5pm so home by 6” still not giving me much or asking me what I have going (I just happen to be hanging out with my niece around lunch). I message her back and say “I am free after lunch if its in Hamilton, maybe not free if its in Toronto since its further, so can you give me some idea or a timeline?” She texts back “forget it, don’t worry about it, nevermind”.
Like WTF! She never asked me if I could go shopping with her, she just told me and then won’t give me an idea of where and when we are going or taking into account I may have crap going on.
Am I being unreasonable for wanting to know a timeline for shopping? Or is her timeline of “you will be done by 5 as that is when the shops close” a justifiable timeline?
Post # 3
I think you are right for wanting to know more. I don’t understand why she was being so short and vague with you. To me that is somewhat rude. Even if it is just a text message, you are still talking to another person and should be respectful. And she should not have gotten upset about anything!
Post # 4
WOW… apparently it’s your FSIL’s world and you just live in it. Hopefully she fixes her attitude before the wedding. Yikes!
Post # 5
Call her instead of text to resolve the issue.
Post # 6
I am a planner and people that think they can drop plans into my lap without a consideration of other things I might have lined up drive me crazy. I know that not everyone will agree or lives their life that way but I do.
I think you are being perfectly reasonable to expect a certain amount of lead time when it comes to giving up your entire day. I wouldn’t be able to accomodate a request like that at the last minute and she shouldn’t expect you to either.
Post # 7
So basically, to me, that translated as “you will be here at x amount of time until the shop closes.” Not…will you come? Who does that, lol. I think you are perfectly right about wanting more info and she can’t not ask you and just boss you. Sheesh