Post # 1
My friend is dating and living with a guy who has an eight year old son. His son lives out of town and is here visiting for the summer. My friend takes care of the kid during the day while her boyfriend works. She called me the other day and asked if I could come over and watch him for a while because she had to meet with her advisor at school. I got over there this morning and something just seemed strange. One thing is her personality seemed a lot different. Another thing is she seemed upset that the kid opened the door when I knocked and she sent him to his room. She was getting ready to leave for the appointment but at the last minute she decided that she would just take him with her. She said that she would give me a call sometime this week. I just think that this is weird.
Should I be worried? Could I have just caught her on an off day?
Post # 2
Kacey23: Yeah, it definitely seems weird. If you are close enough to watch her stepson (?) then I would think you are close enough to have the “What’s up” conversation. Personally asking someone to come over and take time out of their day for you just to cancel last minute is a little weird. Maybe they had a bad morning and he was naughty? Maybe he has a disability/emotional disorder that set their house out of sorts? Maybe she is superstressed and not used to having a kid around?
Post # 3
I watched him some over the Christmas holidays and I was around him a lot last summer. This summer just seems different. I have rarely talked to my friend and when I do she hasn’t really said much. Something has definitely changed but I can’t seem to figure it out.
Post # 4
Kids at that age can actually be as trying/mouthy as teenagers at times, so it is possible that you caught them on an off day and she just didn’t want you to put up with his attitude. Since you two are obviously close and you know her stepson, why not say “Hey, is everything okay? When I came over to watch Joe the other day, you seemed really stressed and it’s not like you to just say ‘nevermind’ after asking me to watch him.”
Post # 5
You’ll have much better luck figuring this out and being helpful if you ask your friend instead of strangers on the internet…
Post # 6
Kacey23: I can’t comment on the rest, but as a parent I agree that an 8 year old should not be answering the door. I’m guessing you caught her at a stressful time.
Post # 7
I guess I don’t get what’s wrong here. That she canceled? She probably just changed her mind, I don’t really know what is sending up a red flag
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
Kacey23: As a mother of 4, one soon to be stepdaughter, I can tell you that I really do not think this has anything to do with you. Other than her valuing your relationship enough NOT to leave the child with you. I am also assuming she is not a mother herself. It is very hard for a non parent to all of the sudden become a parent. And people expect that you should just pick it up, well parents with newborns don’t just pick it up. They learn as they go. And it is the same for new step parents, no matter the age of the child.
Post # 9
The kid was probably being an unholy terror and she decided not to inflict that on you. She probably doesn’t want to say anything because she doesn’t want to air her family business.