Is this weird?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Kacey23:  Yeah, it definitely seems weird. If you are close enough to watch her stepson (?) then I would think you are close enough to have the “What’s up” conversation. Personally asking someone to come over and take time out of their day for you just to cancel last minute is a little weird. Maybe they had a bad morning and he was naughty? Maybe he has a disability/emotional disorder that set their house out of sorts? Maybe she is superstressed and not used to having a kid around?

Post # 4
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Kids at that age can actually be as trying/mouthy as teenagers at times, so it is possible that you caught them on an off day and she just didn’t want you to put up with his attitude. Since you two are obviously close and you know her stepson, why not say “Hey, is everything okay? When I came over to watch Joe the other day, you seemed really stressed and it’s not like you to just say ‘nevermind’ after asking me to watch him.”

Post # 5
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’ll have much better luck figuring this out and being helpful if you ask your friend instead of strangers on the internet…

Post # 6
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Kacey23:  I can’t comment on the rest, but as a parent I agree that an 8 year old should not be answering the door. I’m guessing you caught her at a stressful time.

Post # 7
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I guess I don’t get what’s wrong here. That she canceled? She probably just changed her mind, I don’t really know what is sending up a red flag

Post # 8
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

Kacey23:  As a mother of 4, one soon to be stepdaughter, I can tell you that I really do not think this has anything to do with you. Other than her valuing your relationship enough NOT to leave the child with you. I am also assuming she is not a mother herself. It is very hard for a non parent to all of the sudden become a parent. And people expect that you should just pick it up, well parents with newborns don’t just pick it up. They learn as they go. And it is the same for new step parents, no matter the age of the child.  

Post # 9
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

The kid was probably being an unholy terror and she decided not to inflict that on you. She probably doesn’t want to say anything because she doesn’t want to air her family business. 

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