Post # 1
My fiance would like to ask my married brother to be his best man but he is concerned that my brother’s wife will be “left out” or it’ll be a bad idea because he feels like a bad person to not include his wife.
I told him it is ok, but what do you all think?
Post # 3
I think it’s ok as long as his wife is invited, she doesn’t have to be in the wedding party, but they should be seated together at the reception definately
Post # 4
I think it’s fine… I have a matron of honor and her husband is just a guest… it’s not like you can include your groomsmen and every one of their spouses / dates/ lovers / crushes up with them :p
She’ll only have to sit alone for a little bit, they’ll be reunited in the end, I promise!
Post # 5
@bump: I think that is fine and very thoughtful of your Fiance to want to include your brother. As long as the wife is invited I see nothing wrong with it.
Could his wife play another part in the wedding? Maybe do a reading or something?
Post # 6
I think it is totally fine. If possible, I would really try to sit them together at the reception (like PP said)
Post # 7
My husband was best man in a wedding a little over a month after we got married, and I was ok with him being in the wedding, I was not ok with the fact that I was not invited.. I was invited to the dance (not ceremony or dinner) a couple of days before, but didn’t go.. I was hurt that I wasn’t able to see him all dressed up in the tux that we had to pay for :(.. So yeah, itll be fine as long as she can go I think! 🙂
Post # 9
I think it’s fine. How long have they been married though? If he’s like a sister to you (or him) maybe you should come up with another role for her like a reader or escort.
Post # 10
totally fine. My husband has been in tons of weddings that I was just a guest at. Additionally, we had his brother as our best man, and his wife was a guest. I don’t think couples expect to both be included in a bridal party all the time.
Post # 11
As long as she’s invited, then you’re fine! My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband is not in the wedding.
Post # 12
It’s fine. My cousin is a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and her fiance is going to be a guest. He doesn’t know my fiance that well, so being a part of the Wedding Party isn’t going to crush him. I doubt he would want to be anyway, just his personality.
Post # 13
My future husband was best man and a groomsmen for 2 weddings (2 weekends in a row). I had no part in either of them. I don’t mind. This is a day to say “hey, this person is important to me and I want them to be by my side to steady my nerves and be a pillar of support.” You don’t need to include his wife, so long as she’s invited and knows she is welcome. Unless she’s a super high maintenance woman, she’ll totally understand.