Is this what cold feet feels like??

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@foxydiamond:  Well, do you think you’d be feeling this way if you weren’t about to get married? Any inkling of this feeling before you got engaged? If not then it’s probably cold feet.

For me, I have been 3000% sure about FI since the day I met him. I fought hard to be with him (it’s a long story) and I’m not the kind of girl who chases guys. He’s the only man I’ve ever persued in my entire life and I couldn’t just let it go because I was SO damn sure he’s the one. But a week or so ago I started to realize…we have no money saved, haven’t bought rings or a dress and we’re supposed to get married in 4 1/2 months. (This is not such a problem, we’re having a courthouse wedding) That time frame hit me like a ton of bricks. Omg.

I have never been interested in other guys since the day I met FI. And now all the sudden I see some guy and think “Am I really sure about FI?” But then I go home and FI is there, like he always is. And he hugs me and I still get that same fantabulous feeling I always did. And I remember why I love him and why he IS the one.

Post # 5
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@foxydiamond:  It’s totally scary! It sounds like you’ve got cold feet though. I would embrace it and talk about your worries with your partner. 

I would try push this other guy out of your life if possible. Comparing your relationship to another is never good. 

Post # 6
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is (without a doubt) cold feet. I had a brief moment not long after I got engaged where I started to wonder the same things. I think that since our wedding is something that most of us dream about for so long, that when it becomes reality it becomes terrifying. Think about all the reasons why you wanted to marry this man in the first place – and stay far away from that other guy while you’re having these thoughts. The grass always seems greener on the other side, but it’s not Wink You’ll feel better soon sweetie. Big hugs! Smile

Post # 7
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@foxydiamond:  You’ve been together for 9 years, do you live together? If so for how long?

Post # 8
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jadlnc:  AWWWW i love your post! The end is so special and so true! I can relate to it on certain levels! The ending paragraph was so sweet! Best of luck! *hugz*

Post # 10
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@foxydiamond:  See? There you go, being married won’t really change anything. I think if anything this other guy is a subconscious way to distract yourself from a little wedding stress and maybe the hum-drum of having been in a relationship for 9 years. But at the end of the day you can come back to your guy and remember why you love him and why you want to spend your life with him. Cold feet and it will pass 🙂

Post # 11
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6274 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i woke up a few mornings after we got engaged and looked at my sleeping fiance and thought, is this it, is this who i really wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  and the answer is absolutely YES.   i did not get thoughts of wanting to run away with someone else.

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