Is this wierd?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

suez:  Yes, it’s weird. Is her husband not concerned?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If she’s actually not allowing her child to learn how to crawl, I would call that neglectful. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

suez:  I would be calling Child Protective Services. Preventing a child from learning normal developmental skills like crawling, drinking then breastfeeding, her bizarre eating habits? Someone needs to intervene on behalf of this child.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes, this is weird. Her child has to be able to develop like every other person on this planet. How can the baby learn to walk if she can’t crawl? Is she prepared to carry an eighteen year old around? Plus, children need to have colds and chicken pox and other illnesses to build defences. The milk and alcohol thing makes me feel sick tbh. She’s stunting her childs development in every way, which can be seen as a form of abuse. Talk to her husband about it, see if he can reason with his wife

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Mrs_Purple.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Most definately call child services, this is not normal and sounds like the mother is off balance.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

It’s more than weird.  It’s damaging her baby.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Could there be post natal depression going on. This doesn’t sound normal, but I would think it more likely that she has a mental illness rather than just being a bad person. I think her husband should try and look at getting her professional psychiatric help. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

suez:  You need to call child protective services ASAP for the well-being of that child. Your friend is f**king mental and needs help, and her child needs to be taken to safety. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think you need to tell the husband that he needs to get a backbone.  He has put his foot down and take her to get professional help.  I think she needs to be assesed by a psychiatrist.  This is serious.  This mother really needs help.  The father needs to realize that he’s reponsible for his child wellbeing – not just her.  Clearly, the mother has totally lost perspective.

I can think of a few reasons for her behaviour.  A severe case of postpartum depression or psychosis?  If she did develop depression after giving birth and didn’t get treatment the depression just gets worse.  Often people are in denial that they are depressed or have a problem.  Sometimes with depression people can have “psychotic” symptoms.  They lose their grip on reality and there is no logic to their thinking.  Also, sometimes mothers who have been abused as children are very overprotective of their children.  They won’t let anyone else take care of them or trust others with them.  The mother thinks she’s protecting the child from potential abuse.  The reality is that she’s hurting her child by not letting the child develop normally.  I suggest instead of judging her try to show her some compassion.  The woman is not well.  If her husband won’t do anything then maybe you need to call Child Protective Services.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

Please do not call child services unless the childs life is in danager. Calling is going to do nothing but create havoc for the child, the family and your friend in a time when she needs treatment and support. The father needs to be the primary care giver of the child not some strangers.

Why the hell have all of you waited so long? I am sorry but I am shocked by this. She has been refusing to eat and you guys still did not think that something was wrong? She has been saying and possibly doing things that might harm her baby and yet I will post on the internet instead! 

You, her family, her husband need to get your friend into psychiatric care immediately. It sounds like she has number of mental illnesses caused by pregnancy which probably started with PPD.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

This is not only weird it’s not something a normal, sane person does. She may have some sort of chemical imbalance, severe PPD, or something else happend (the brain is tricky thing) and she needs help. Her husband needs to not run away to the backyard to drink while his wife and baby suffer.

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