(Closed) Is this wording for response card TOO pushy?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Angelz_love:  I would do it, if you have people that you are inviting that would add more guests to the count!  If they would be “rude” enough to add guests -then I think you  (or any other bride/groom) should have the “right” to limit the guest count/only have those you have invited to be at your wedding!

Post # 4
1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Angelz_love: I plan on doing this same thing, actually.  People really SHOULD know that if you address an invite to “John and Jane Smith” or “Mr. and Mrs. Smith,” it doesn’t mean “John and Jane and family” – but a lot of people either don’t realize this, or don’t care, and RSVP for the whole crew, anyway.  I don’t think it hurts to be absolutely clear on who (and how many) you are inviting.

If you do get people who are brazen enough to write in 8 of 2 guests, you can call them (or have your mom or Future Mother-In-Law, depending on who it is) to clear up the confusion.

Post # 5
1011 posts
Bumble bee

Rather than do the _ of _ on my rsvps, I actually wrote in the names of the guests.  This served 2 purposes:  no mystery responses AND no surprise guests.  If only one of the 2 guests could come, then they wrote a note saying who was coming and apologized that the other would be absent.  No substitution of guests happened either.  I thought it was more “formal” that way too.  If I had had enough energy, I would have actually written the guests’ names on the actual invitation (instead of just saying “the honor of your presence” it would have been the honor of the presence of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”).

Post # 6
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it would be more visually pleasing if you wrote

2 seats have been reserved in your honor”


No. Attending __________________________

( ) will attend

( ) sends regrets

When I first looked at it, I didn’t really know what the one and two were for, probably because you already filled them in.

Post # 7
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@louisianablue: This is what we’re doing for our’s.  That way there is no confusion (we hope).

Post # 9
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@louisianablue: yes, I think this looks a bit better.

Post # 10
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I wouldn’t allow anyone to write anything other than their name and their entree selection (if applicable).  The less ‘thought-process’ you can put into it, the better, IMO.

Our cards said:

Name(s): _________________________________

____ seats reserved in your honor

And then I physically wrote in each number on the cards as it applied to who I was inviting (and STILL got questions about if ‘x’ was invited)

Post # 12
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@louisianablue: I did very similar wording, and we still had a family of 5 show up when only 2 were invited, and other people randomly rsvp’d for themseleves and another when they didn’t have a +1 lol

I think the OP’s wording is more straightforward than “we have reserved __ seats in your honor”

Post # 13
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Angelz_love: YES! That is even better than the original wording. Double whammy!

Post # 16
134 posts
Blushing bee

I did “we reservered _ seats in your honor.” and I STILL had people add more or ask if they could add more. I don’t know that it’s possible to ever get people not to want to bring more people. But I don’t think it’s too pushy.

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