Post # 1
I’m just thinking out loud here…
I have 3 half brothers and 1 step sister. My step sister is in her 30s and is my maid of honor 🙂
My half brothers are currently ages 13, 14, and 17. Because it would not be fair to ask one to be a Groomsmen and not the others, Fiance and I decided we’d involve them in another way — either as ushers or reading a passage if they preferred.
Is this “wrong” of us? My step sister and Kevin’s sister (both in their 30s) are in the wedding party.
Post # 3
i think as long as you include them, and they are ok with the duties they have, then it will be fine,..its your day!
Post # 5
I don’t think its wrong. I think you should get to pick your girls and he should get to pick his guys. I don’t think you should have to take each other’s siblings into account if you aren’t especially close to them. Plus, at their ages, most wouldn’t be in a wedding party anyway.
Post # 6
My nephews (ages 14 and 16) didn’t care that they were not included in our wedding. Things like that don’t seem to be on the radar of teenage boys.
Post # 7
I think your Fiance should have people he is close with standing up for him, the Groomsmen are the man’s support system and the BMs are the girls. If you wanted to include your half brothers it should be as bridesmen.
Post # 8
Fiance and I each have a younger brother (mine will be 24, Future Brother-In-Law will be 20 at the time of the wedding)…neither are groomsmen. My brother will walk my mom down the aisle, his will walk his grandma down the aisle (so I guess they’re technically ushers). We aren’t close to our brothers, so it only seemed natural.
Post # 9
I’m not having my sister, Future Sister-In-Law, or my brother in the wedding party. My brother and one of my male cousins will both be ushers though.
I vote include who you want to include, how you want to include them. There is no “have to”, it’s your day!
Post # 10
Right, I was thinking he shouldn’t have to have ALL of my brothers. That would be the majority of the groom’s party. And he’s not particularly close to them AND they’re all quite young.
Post # 11
Nope, no problem with that. In fact, my sister (technically step-sister) is a Maid/Matron of Honor and my brothers (twin brother and half-brother) are ushers. It’s worked out fine.