Is TTC all consuming for you too?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re not TTC yet, but very soon will be. I can relate to a lot of your post. I see the pregnant form in everything right now, we both notice kids everywhere, name ideas, etc… I think it’s supposed to be all-consuming. It’s a huge deal!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are in cycle one of TTC so I don’t have words of wisdom, so to speak, but I understand what you mean. 

Don’t be surprised if the hubs isn’t in the same place as you right now. It won’t be real for him until the pee stick turns and even then, not totally real until there is a babe in arms. 

I think about TTC and pregnancy and all the what ifs all the time. My goal is not to make my friends (or my husband) go crazy so I try to use this (the bee) as an outlet. 

Just try to distract yourself with life and hobbies. The two week wait sucks and is hard to get through. Good luck. 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  MrsM914. Reason: Typos
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In the TWW of cycle 12 here.  At times it is very very consuming.  For the most part, it is always on my mind.  I’ve had a few emotional breakdowns over it, particularly at the 6 month mark, as well as when SIL and my cousin both had their babies in September (They both got KU in our 1st cycle TTC, one was an oops, the other was literally 1BD in trying…I also hosted both baby showers).

I find that the emotions change with your cycle.  AF arrives and that day I’m upset, thinking “this will never happen”.  Between AF and O, I’m hopeful.  The first part of the TTW isn’t so bad either, but by 8DPO I’m stressed, obsessed, and already preparing myself to grieve and wait for AF.

The best advice I can give to you is to try to keep yourself busy.  Give yourself something to look forward to when AF arrives and you’re feeling down.  DH and I plan a sushi date night at our favorite place when AF shows her ugly head…it really helps force me to dress up and look nice instead of wallowing in self pity and making myself depressed.   

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Also, FWIW, DH had the same feelings as your DH throughout this TTC thing.  Now that we are starting to move into the fertility testing phase, he’s more involved in things. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Oh yes and I’m only in cycle two of ttc!  I try to focus on what I can do, like how I eat, if I exercise, that kind of thing. Makes me feel like I’m always doing something for the cause!  I try to limit how much I think about it.  But just a little while ago I was getting anxious about not having a positive OPK, silly since I’m cd13 and it wasn’t until cd17 last time.  Definitely learning to be patient…it’s not easy!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hi guys, mind if I join in on this thread? Im 7DPO of my 1st cycle TTC, and I’m going crazy analyzing everything my body does! I tested this morning and got a BFN, but I’m holding out hope that it’s still just too early to tell.

I was very active on this site back in 2011 when I got married, so Im looking to you darling bees again to get me through this, and of course I want to offer all of you that same listening ear! Hope y’all are doing alright this morning!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

gyrobb:  I think you will find a ton of support on the Monthly POAS threads! Also, make a rule for yourself not to test before 10DPO, trust me, it will save you sanity (and your wallet! )

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wannabeemamma:  I’m on year 4 of TTC. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don’t. I got better in between the ART cycles (IUI, IVF) because the chance of me getting pregnant naturally was so slim. But during a cycle, I was (and am) a crazy woman–and being pumped full of hormones doesn’t help. 

I’m currently in my TWW of my first Egg Donation cycle. Imagine what you are going through, then add hormones that mimic pregnancy. Even before the Transfer, I was dizzy, nauseous, food cravings, tired and boobs hurt. After the transfer, add cramping and round ligament pain. (and I have to do a nightly shot in my hip/butt area)

I was bemoaning how much it sucked to feel so pregnant and yet not know if I really am. I almost kicked my DH out of the house when he told me, “it’s not so bad”. SERIOUSLY DUDE, DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU JUST SAID TO A HORMONAL MAYBE PREGNANT LADY?!?!?!

My only advice is stay off the internet checking out other people’s symptoms. You are on your own unique journey and everyone, pregnant and non-pregnant, has felt what you are feeling right now. Stay busy and keep your fingers crossed!

Baby Dust!!

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

KoiKove:  I feel for you 4 years of TTC sounds like hell on earth. I’m wishing you the best of luck and TEN babies!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

sherry17:  LOL! thank you for your generosity, but I think I will have my hands full with just ONE 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I was really excited to start the process especially as we were planning to start TTC in December and then decided to catch the fertile window in November instead. Since those early days, it has been a horrible wait. I have experienced some symptoms; only one or two are really different to anything I’ve ever had before but the rest feel IDENTICAL to AF to be honest. I have spent the last one and a half weeks wondering if I am PG or not, whether I will ever be and counting away days of my life knowing this could all lead to a giant BFN anyway. 

I am 9DPO and tested BFN today. Feel like sh*t and knew I shouldn’t have tested. Now my two unusual symptoms have disappeared and I just feel like AF is planning her revenge. 

This is my first month TTC.

I am scared that if this is how I lose my sh*t after one cycle, how am I going to be every month? 

Two months ago, I wasn’t even thinking about TTC, pregnancy or babies. What happened to me? 

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