(Closed) Is two years too far away? (long)

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Is two years too far away?
    Yes, figure out a sooner date : (27 votes)
    20 %
    No, it will be fine : (45 votes)
    33 %
    Ignore advice from strangers/coworkers, it's your own wedding : (62 votes)
    45 %
    I hate wedding planning : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Yes do what works best for you, and ignore the unsolisted advice!  Having said that, for me, I would go crazy waiting two years!  Our engagement will be just over a year, and I can’t wait!

    I’ve also heard that a long engagement can be both a blessing and a curse money-wise.  If you are diligent then you have enough time to do a lot of research, wait for great sales, etc and you can end up saving a lot of money.  But some brides find that with so much time to plan they take on more and more extra projects, which of course equals more and more money!  It’s all up to you, though.  At the end of the day you will enjoy your wedding day and will remember it for the rest of your lifes, no matter what date you choose. 

    Post # 4
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    we are planning our wedding for July 2014, i dont think im going to hate it.

    just gives me longert o spend time looking for the most perfect bits to include. we’re not booking things just yet, apart from the church and the venue, then all the other bits we can spend time looking at different alternatives for photographers/entertainment/decorations etc til we both think we have found the most perfect out the bunch as possible.

    our decision for such a long engagament is also due to finances, as we will be paying for ours ourselves.

    each to their own though! hope you can work something out that suits you!

    Post # 5
    Member
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I’m having a six-month engagement, and I am SO done with wedding stuff a month out! One issue you have with longer engagements (one of my MOHs went 1.5 years, and almost drove herself insane with the details)- you will DO more. Meaning- more DIYs, more projects, etc. I’m keeping things simple, and I’m really glad I did.

    You can do all your planning in 3-4 months, so it really depends- how much more do you think you’ll be able to save? How soon do you want to be married? Would you be able to make decisions and not second-guess them (causing yourself more stress).

    Post # 6
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    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Firstly, hi date twin 🙂 secondly I already have my ceremony and reception venue and we hope to have the band booked in a few months! Time goes by so fast, it will be here before you know it. I very much doubt you will hate your wedding, it’s only two years, not 10! Happy planning whatever you decide to do 🙂

    Post # 7
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Ignore the advice and do what’s best for you! We only had a 9 month engagement and about 2 months before the wedding, I was over it and just like OH MY GOD ARE WE MARRIED YET?! But I know not everyone is like that! I had a friend that had a 2 year engagement and she loved every second of it and took the time to plan the wedding of her dreams. Do what works for you as a couple and have fun with it!

    Post # 8
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    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I don’t think two years is too long. I had about 20 month engagement and thought I would hate it as I always said I didn’t want anything over a year. However, I ended up loving it. You have so much time just to research and look at tings and then can change your mind and change your mind again when new ideas come up. I would have had a completely different wedding with one year to plan vs then time I had.

    Post # 9
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    While her advice was rude and unsolicited–it IS hard to make so many decisions when you have so much time to change your mind…or procrastinate….

    What’s wrong with a simple destination wedding? Or a smaller wedding, not just a blow out party. You don’t HAVE to spend a ton of $ to get married, if you want to wait for other reasons fine, but if it’s just $ it seems a little silly to wait just so you can have a  blow out party that day. After you’re married you might feel like wtf why did we wait so long?

     

    That said, I had a year and a half engagement and we’re having a destination wedding so it’s not like 2 years is crazy long—it’s just that I hate to see someone put off marrying their fiance JUST because they feel some kind of social pressure to drop 30k on a party

    Post # 11
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I want to preface this by saying only you guys know your personalities so it totally differs by couple.  For my FI and I we are having a 16 month engagement and we are 2 months away.  With all of the detail stuff coming up it is really exciting right now, but when we were in between making the big decisions (venue florist etc) and these details we hit a lull where we wish we wouldn’t have waited so long and just wanted to be married.

    Post # 12
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Keep in mind that you don’t have to start planning RIGHT away. You have a date picked, awesome. Now just research for a few months before you decide anything concrete, then start with the big stuff (venue, theme/colors) and then start hardcore planning once you feel you’ve saved enough, maybe a year before the wedding. There is no need to actually PLAN for two years – I think that would make anybody crazy.

    Post # 16
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Do whatever you think is best for you and your fiance! I can tell you from my experience that two years would have killed me. We got engaged July 1st, 2011 and our wedding is October 6, 2012 and i’ve about had it with planning. If it were any longer I don’t know that I could do it. It just gets to be too much stress after awhile.

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