Post # 1
I found this article and wanted to know what you ladies thought about it!
I’m curious because I happen to identify with the article and think that most people who do have vintage weddings ARE actually vintage lovers at heart and not trying to just keep up with this trend. At least, I want to hope that brides would have weddings that represent them as a couple and not whats in style at the moment! The post on Oh Lovely Day stemmed from a Huffingtron Post about how vintage is dead and that brides only have vintage weddings to be trendy and they “lack the creativity in design”.
I happen to be having a vintage wedding and don’t take offense to people claiming that my wedding is “overdone” or “trendy” because I can’t change who I am. I think my family and friends would be confused if they showed up to my wedding and there weren’t retro owls everywhere and vintage glass! I would never think to have a more classic/modern wedding just to do something “different”. It does make me sad sometimes that my style has become so popular that it is deemed a fad, but it is what it is 🙂
I just wanted to know what you Bee’s thought!
Post # 3
Everything is “overdone” when it comes to weddings.
We read so much on the internet that we think its all over done when in reality most people havent seen it. Its like fashion. You might see something on the runway at Bryant Park, but it takes years before its common place on the streets.
And in reality everything at some point will be dated.
You do what you want to do because you love it, not because someone else loves it.
Do what you love.
Post # 4
Most people who will be guests at a wedding do not read wedding magazines or look at wedding blogs online. Yes, we do get ideas from each other, but I personally do not know anyone who chose a style of wedding that she did not love, just because it was trendy or current.
Post # 5
I don’t know. I was originally planning a vintage/ranch theme wedding. The vintage side of it fit me, the ranch side did not. I will say, the only reason I decided on that is because it was the most affordable way to have a wedding. So much of the stuff is easier to DIY than if you were to have a formal wedding. I never really thought of it as being in style, I just thought of it as more affordable than any other styles I looked into doing. I hear things like “everyone is doing that style” But I have only been to one wedding like that…and it was memorable and beautiful. I wouldn’t care what others say about my wedding!
Post # 6
I’m planning a vintage style wedding because, that’s just my style period.
I didn’t even know about wedding trends and what was in or out before I got engaged and found Pinterest. I never thought about.
I still don’t care about what it is “style” either. My wedding is for me and my FI. I don’t give a damn what some blogger on the internet or anyone else thinks.
Post # 7
In my opinion, I think a certain type of vintage is over-done. I never really cared for the bunting, old luggage, bow-tie combo wedding.
I also read the huffington-post article that the first one mentioned, and I do have to agree, at least for myself – I plan on having a more elegant wedding and I have some ideas that are similar to Kate’s bridal look. But after all, Kate’s wedding had vintage apects (the tiara, the dress similar to Grace’s)
I don’t think vintage is out totally, just getting modified.
Post # 8
@lefeymw: Totally true.
The wedding world thinks it’s overdone because that’s what we’re seeing in the media as planning/recently married brides (and/or grooms). Meanwhile, not everyone is constantly paying attention to weddings and trends.
My mom went to a wedding a few months ago and was all “Wow! they had a photo booth! They had cupcakes with little cute handmade things! etc” and I refrained from telling her that these things have been around for years (on blogs/wedding boards). Why? Because it’s new to her. About 90% of the wedding pictures I see of friends and friends of friends on facebook are the standard run of the mill event space, formal seating, catering, with flower centerpieces. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Maybe 10% of the photos I see have the vintage, hand-made elements. Trend in the wedding fashion world, not so much in the real world.
If you like vintage, do a vintage wedding and have no shame in it. Modern styles come and go. Vintage may be trendy now, but at least it is classic and you will likely never regret it if it’s true to you.
Post # 9
ours is a vintage/nostalgic amusementpark/carnival theme. It is based on affordable items, ease of DIY, nostalgia for a little RI theme park called Rocky Point, parralell memories of various foods, places, candies, and experiences from our childhoods. No one has told us our wedding plans are anything but wonderful. Even my brother and his wife, who have been to over 20 weddings in the last 3 years, have not once mentioned that they had seen anything similar at any of those 🙂
I agree with the PPs, do what you and your FI love, and don’t worry about the rest 🙂
Post # 10
We’re doing a backyard wedding, so the vintage aspects come pretty naturally (the inspiration is actually my grandparents’ 1955 family farm wedding) and work well with the space and atmosphere. I think you go with what you want – if you love the idea of a vintage-themed wedding, do it. The only people going to potentially snark at you for overdoing a “trend” are those who spend all their time talking about/thinking about weddings – not your family and friends. And aren’t the latter the only ones who really matter? 🙂
Post # 11
we are doing a vintage rustic wedding…. when i first decided that i had no idea it was the “trend” i just love vintage! and i doubt anyone coming to my wedding knows that my theme is the “trend” haha…. none of them are planning weddings.
Post # 12
I take those articles with the biggest grain of salt I can find. What is trendy and overdone in one area is completely unheard of and never done before in another. Do whatever works for you that you love. It’s your wedding so no one else has any say in what you pick or don’t pick. Your guests don’t read wedding blogs, and even if they went to a wedding every single weekend, there are still tons of ideas that they may have never seen before. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 13
Crazy!!! I just started picking out things I loved and low and behold they are always lacey or oldish lol I just think it’s classy… don’t even worry about it. CLASSY NEVER GOES OUT OF STYLE!!!
Post # 14
Thanks for the replies ladies 🙂
I was just curious of what others thought of the topic, I personally don’t care if any one thinks the kind of wedding I’m having is trendy or overdone. I have a vintage personality and wouldn’t change that for the word!
@lefeymw: I totally agree! Its OUR wedding and it represents our taste and style which is all that matters!
Post # 15
If you are a daily vintage-lover, you wear vintage(like) clothes on regular basis and your apartement is full of old stuff… Sure, go and enjoy your vintage wedding!
But I honestly think there are some brides that go with the vintage trend just because it is trendy/pretty and that brides feel that they have to have a theme… Yes, it has been overdone twice over…
If you compared the number of couples who openly like vintage and the number of “vintage” weddings… What do you think you would find 😉
Post # 16
I agree. My wedding is country/vintage and only because my FI and I LOVE country and vintage. Our house is full of antiques, we go to the antique markets as “staycations” and we both light up when we see an antique that would “fit perfectly” somewhere in the house.
I think 30 years ago, our theme would be vintage and 30 years from now, same thing 🙂
ETA: Even though our wedding is vintage-y there will nary be a typewriter, mason jar, or burlap in sight.