Post # 1
Okay, so this question partially came to mind when I paid a little visit to the “emotional” threads section of the site, but as a “waiting” girl, I wonder is wedding planning REALLY that stressful or is it just what you make it out to be?
I mean—the drama, the dramaaaaaa!! lol. I don’t really have that much drama in my life but I wonder are those who complain of all this wedding woo ha generally more drawn to drama related things outside of wedding planning? OR am I just doomed for the short term future of my wedding-planning life?
I know it’s kind of an odd question but I am truly curious!
Post # 3
@Dell79: I am not a drama type person. Prior to getting engaged my life was pretty simple. I swear as soon as he slid that ring on my finger, shit hit the fan. His Mother and I, who were close, started fighting all of the time. His sister told us we weren’t going to make it. My husband got laid off 2 months before the wedding. His ex-wife flipped out. My Mother became super critical. My sister got pregnant. My bridesman’s wife got mad about him being in the wedding and not her.
It was really one thing after the other. Planning the wedding itself was not difficult. The other stuff that happened because of the wedding, that was the drama. It’s amazing how people just flip out and change.
Post # 4
I am a kind off an easy going bride and I still get my mini-meltdowns and bridezilla moments. It just depends what type of person you are, the wedding plans, and your family (this includes future extended family).
Don’t start stressing now please! lol but it varies from person to person.
Post # 5
I defiantely think it is what you make it out to be. Of course little things are going to come up, but as long as you keep the mind set that as long as you end up married at the end of the day it will have been a success. It keeps all those small things, just what they are small things.
Post # 6
@mwitter80: oh no!!!!! that sounds terrible, I pray this does not happen to me lol
@eperez21: ahaha- i know does me writing this post mean I am destined to be some overthinking crazy bride ahh lol
@ieatunicorns: true, this is the mentality that I am “going in” with lol
Post # 7
I would like to think that I am a rediculiously easy going bride. I am 5 months out and am still waiting for a meltdown. I have had a few moments for sure, but nothing unexpected. I think the most important part for me is to stay away from all those crazy bridal magazines. I can’t believe what kind of rediculious things are on the ‘must have’ lists some times
Post # 8
Back after we first got engaged, when life was going to plan, the planning itself wasn’t the problem. My mother was the problem. She said we wouldn’t make it, that she didn’t like FH, she refused (and still has yet) to meet FH’s family… Then FH’s brother decided to take a really big dump on everyone’s lives by doing some really horrible things to his family. Apparently, FH and I were trying to steal his thunder because he was going to propose to his girlfriend and we couldn’t get married when we wanted to because it would ruin it for them (despite the fact we were supposed to get married a year apart)…
I generally enjoy a drama free life, but there’s something about getting engaged that just brings out the worst in people. It may eventually die down, mine did, but there are going to be some moments when you really wonder why anyone ever gets married.
Post # 9
Depends on how high maintenance you are/how many components you have. I have a 2,500 budget (yes, the comma is in the right place), and its still stressful lol
Post # 10
It’s fair to say that i’ve lost a bit of sleep in the process. But, now i’m 5 weeks out and calm as anything. I imagined the complete opposite! My advice is to choose your battles, especially with family/future family.
Post # 11
I said “I am an easy-going person but wedding planning just SUCKS!” but I think that is because we decided to get married 6 weeks after I graduate graduate school. So while wedding planning is going smoothly (::knock on wood::) my life is currently one giant stress ball!
Post # 12
In my case, it’s not the wedding planning itself that sucks, but the accomodating of everyone’s wishes. Finding and selecting vendors is great and trying on dresses and eating cake is always fun. The problem is when in-laws, siblings, and married friends all chime in on what Fiance and I have to do or dare not do. I know they mean well but man is it frustrating. No one even stops and asks what we want. After the first initial months of stress, I just started ignoring all the comments and handled it the way Fiance and I agreed to–by ourselves. Aside from checking invitation wording and a tea ceremony protocol that is additional to the wedding, we have just been going with what we want, and it’s been amazing planning since.
Post # 13
Wedding planning – naw that was easy.
Dealing with guest/family issues once the invites went out OMG – every day it is something.
So dealing with the vendors has been pretty good – it is just a business relationship. Dealing with family and friends has been enough to make me go a bit crazy!
Post # 14
@unixfairy: pretty much this. I LOVED the planning aspect – a little stressful, but I work better under pressure.
Dealing with DH’s parents when it came to them thinking we were spending too much on photographry, wanted us to do x, y, or z, invite long-lost relatives (that WE were paying for), and dealing with them and my own family around the wedding = the not fun part.
If I could plan the wedding again and just pretend Darling Husband and I were orphans, so much better.
Post # 15
The problems I have are…
a) Money. Not a problem for me in real life… then I start to arrange a wedding… and all of a sudden I have 100 people to feed and vendors who expect me to pay 6 months wages for one meal and smile about it. Nope, not happening.
b) Trying to please everyone. Everyone wants things their own way. It drives me crazy how otherwise rational people can suddenly become so pig headed and it isn’t even their wedding!
So yeah… my life is usually drama free… and now, not so much. Weddings bring out the worst in people, I swear.
Post # 16
I am totally enjoying planning our wedding. My fiancee lets me do my own thing and pretends to care when I tell him I’ve changed flowers, bought a guest book, picked bridesmaids dresses etc etc. There are so many fun elements to planning a wedding, just make sure you keep a checklist. Seating arrangements can be difficult due to family issues but just remember that EVERYONE will have a good night because there’s food, dancing and alcohol 🙂 The only sad part is its all over in a matter of hours. This is your day and will be as fantastic as you want it to be