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I wear my engagement ring, and I am going to wear a wedding band, but my fiance doesn't like rings on his fingers (well he has never worn one) but he said he doesn't want one. Is your fiance going to wear one? Would you be upset? I think I feel okay with it, but for some reason it seems to bother me at times.
Yes he is... he's pretty excited about it... he wears a man-gagement ring now too. If he decided not to wear one I'd be slightly hurt but I'd get over it =)
I wouldn't care either, but DH loves his ring and has never had it off.
Mine never wears jewelry and it's like pulling teeth to even get him to wear a watch. I only wear a signature bracelet and earrings so when I got my ring it took some adjustment. He will get used to it and won't even notice it after a few weeks.
My FI is going to wear a wedding band and he can't wait for it actually. I have, however, met plenty of people who don't like to wear rings. My step-grandpa only used to wear his ring on anniversaries. When my step-dad married my mother he gave the ring to my step-dad.
nope, we werent even married 10mins and he asked to take his ring off as he felt uncomfortable and we later had it melted down into something else - doesnt bother me in the least
Have you told FI how you feel about it?? I'd open up to him and tell him how you feel. Have an open and honest discussion... without it getting heated of course.
FI felt the same way, though it was more like he felt "gay" for wearing any type of jewelry besides his watch or chain (dude, one of your ears are pierced TWICE and you used to wear studs...). I think I managed to convince him that he's not wearing a diamond studded pinky ring and the whole point about wearing a band is to represent our union and everlasting love. We've briefly looked online and he's taken a bit of interest after seeing whats out there. He's now saying that since he won't be able to wear his band all the time (too dangerous with farm-life) that I'll have to remind him to put it on... "Are you married tonight?!"
I was surprised that my FI found a wedding band that he liked. We went looking with an open mind because he is not a jewelry guy and I told him I would be ok if he decided he didn't want one. He ended up finding a ring that he is excited to own, he kept calling it "his ring" in the store and got funny when someone else needed to try it on.
As of now, my FI is not wearing one...kinda. He wants to buy one and only wear it on special occasions. He says he doesn't like jewlery, which is very true considering he never wears anything, no watch, no earrings. So while I understand this, is still peeves me a bit but in the end, it's the commitment you make to eachother and while I think the rings symbolize that commitment, they don't make it.
DH never wore jewelry, but he wanted to wear a wedding ring. At first he wanted just a simple band, then he thought he wanted a titanium band. He wouldn't look at anything with diamonds until a salesman at a jewelry store told him he deserved diamonds too. He puffed up like, 'yeah...I deserve them too!" After that he looked at a lot of diamond bands. Then we found one with 9 diamond..."one diamond for every position on a baseball diamond"...his face lit up when he put it on, and I knew that was the one. He took it out and looked at it and tried it on all the time before we were married. Now he only takes it off when he's doing something that might ruin it.
Anyway, even though he never wore jewelry before, he's gotten used to wearing his wedding ring now. He played with it a lot when he first started wearing it, but now he says he doesn't even think about it. He's so used to it that he forgets he has it on.
There are so many lightweight rings now that your SO won't even feel....perhaps you could ask him to wear it for 3 months and see how he feels after that? (compromise)
My first husband didn't wear a ring and he didn't give me one either. I borrowed a ring from my sister to wear. (I was SO YOUNG) It always bothered me.
My new hunny couldn't WAIT to wear a ring! He's so sweet about it and it makes me happy when I see him put it on each morning.
When we were planning the engagement I didn't even like diamonds. I had a gemstone ring in mind. Once the diamond was on my finger i completely changed. Maybe your SO will as well?
We bought one for the ceremony, but nope- FI won't be wearing one. He wants to get one tattooed on & that's totally fine with me.
My fiance says the same thing and I don't think he'll wear it all the time but he knows I'd like him to wear it at least when he's off work. We'll see how it goes. I don't think it's something I want to fight about though so I'm just getting a really comfortable band and hoping for the best!
Hates it. Refuses to wear it. So, I figure...no big deal. But we did compromise on the fact that he will wear it to work...and when were out together on dates because of these reasons:
1. While at work: He works with many clients and I want them to know he's married. He also does.
2. While were on dates: I don't want people to think I'm out with somone who is NOT my husband so he wears his band.
He isn't good at it-I have to remind him sometimes but he tries. Mind you....he doesn't wear watches or even hats. He hates assesories. Hope I helped and Thanks for sharing..we're in the same boat! :)
We've been married 6 months by the way so who kows....he might come around to it more but it's not an issue for us anymoe (at all!)..It's a compromise i'm ok with.
@MidnightSun: Ya get a comfy band. I let him pick his own and he got a black one! So it could be MANLY...I was...yeah, whatever floats your boat.
I wouldn't be okay with it personally. It's important to me that he wear a wedding band when we're married. Luckily, my FI seems excited to get and wear his own ring!
Not saying this couldn't work for other couples, but I am sentimental about this, I guess.
My FI did not want a wedding ring at first. I was really hurt. He works in IT so it's not dangerous for him to wear one. When he realized that I was hurt and upset he secretly started looking for a ring. He hopped on the Tiffany website and found a platinum band that he actually likes. It's a bit pricey, but totally worth it if he'll actually wear it.
I don't think I would care if my FI decided not to wear his wedding band. Afterall, I rarely wear my engagement ring so it would be hypocritical to expect him to wear a ring all the time.
He is going to have a ring and will wear it on special occaisions. Because of the nature of his job, he doesn't plan on wearing it to work.
When we first got engaged, he was kind of anti-ring, but once it arrived and he tried it on, he didn't want to take it off and is more excited to wear it :)
He will wear it but hes made comments about how weird it will feel. Then he mentioned that he doesnt want it to get ruined at work or get in the way. Hes a police officer and I could understand if it was on his gun drawing hand how it can maybe get in the way and be dangerous. However, hes a righty and his ring will be on his left hand so I didnt buy that excuse:) haha I think he was joking anyway. He teases me about not wearing it but Im sure he will. We started looking for rings yesterday!
My FI is in the automotive industry, so we always worry about it being a safety issue to wear rings; only b/c if you are working on an engine, and you're wearing jewelry there's an element of hazard there. He wears a ring that I bought him now, and he refuses to take it off, so I think he's pretty stoked to have a wedding ring! Have you guys thought about maybe getting a tattoo ring? I know it sounds a little cliche, and if you're not the 'tattoo' sort of people, I completely understand; But that way, it's there forever & comfortable for him? Just a thought! I would be supportive if my FI didn't want to wear one, but I think it would irritate me a little!
well, DH1 wore a "mangagement" ring and never took his wedding band off after we were married, and while FI doesn't wear a ring now, he's excited at the prospect of wearing one when we're married, has even picked one out. i think they both felt that way for the same reason...excited to have some physical representation to show the world that they're committed to someone.
that said, my stepdad doesn't wear a wedding ring...doesn't even own one, and my mom is perfectly fine with that. he's a mechanic/tinkerer though, and you really can't wear jewelry doing that kind of work because you risk losing digits.
I definitely want him to wear it! I would be offended if he didn't... I know it's the thought that counts and all, but that's just me personally.
@Candace From BC: I know a lot of men that dont wear wedding rings. I dont mind, its more of a personal thing. My fiance will wear one, i understand that it may be awkward for men, but they will get used to it!
Yes he is, mine is also pretty excited about it. The only place he will not wear one is at work as he is a carpenter and deals with saws and its a dangerous job where anything could grab a hold of the ring and rip his finger off. I will however be wearing his ring around my neck during the work days and once he comes home and has a shower I will give it to him to wear and also on weekends... That way the ring isnt just sitting at home. I have it with me.
My FI works in Navy Special Forces, so there are situations where, for safety reasons (mainly to avoid being seen by a reflection, but also for manual dexterity), he won't be able to wear his ring. He wants one though, or at least a statement that he's married, so he will get a subtle tattoo over which he will wear the ring whenever he can.
I understand it for safety reasons, but for those who say it's uncomfortable, I think it's a bit of a cop out. It took me awhile to get used to my engagement ring, but I did eventually. And e-rings have stones and settings hanging off them that get caught up on things!
Mine doesn't wear jewelry so he wasn't too excited about the whole ring thing in general. But we found a tungsten one he likes and will probably wear it for the ceremony and I'm not sure when else. He wants to mostly wear it around his neck hanging from paracord. LOL! I know that sounds crazy but he's into survival gear so it totally suits him! I'm just excited he found one we both like!
FI is going to wear one. He used to have one and wore it all the time, he didnt think it was fair I got to wear an e ring and he didnt lol. but then he lost it, because it was a bit to big when he lost weight. Now he doenst have one yet and he is sad lol. To be honest though Im happy he wants to wear a ring. I think it would bother me if he didnt want to. That is something that symbolizes our love.
My FI isn't wearing a wedding band, and i dont mind at all. he operates machinery and its not safe to wear rings. and even when he isn't at work, he really isnt a jewellery kind of a guy. I dont think of us being less married or committed if he doesnt wear a ring. its relatively new for men to wear wedding rings anyway, women have always worn them, but not men, its actually traditional for only the woman to have one.....take Prince William for instance. People assume he didnt have one purely because he didnt want one, but he didnt have one because thats the old traditional way of doing it. Plus they are running low on the welsh gold that all the royals have their wedding rings made from. thats also possibly why kate only had a 2mm one, to save on gold. (i say ONLY 2mm, as if its a bad thing, mine is also only 2mm, I chose it and i love it)
Yes, he is going to wear a simple polished yellow gold band. The only jewelry he wears on a regular basis is a yellow gold chain that his mom gave him when he was younger so I wasn't sure how he'd feel about wearing a ring, but he's excited that his ring will match his necklace.
DH wore his before we were engaged. I made it for him. He loves it and gets compliments on it everyday.
My FI won't be wearing a ring. I was upset for about 10 minutes, before I realized that it didn't really matter. My mom never had an engagement ring, that didn't mean she wasn't engaged and hasn't lowered her happiness with my dad after 31 years! Then I learned that men really only started to wear wedding rings in the last 100 or so years--and in most parts of the world they STILL don't wear them. Besides, FI uses any opportunity to talk about the fact that he has a fiancee so I'm not worried lol. Yeah, it is different from what I had just assumed would be, but in the end it really doesn't bother me at all.
We aren't engaged yet, but it's something that we've talked a lot about during my ring process, and while he's been reluctant because he has never worn any jewelery, I think he will now! He was always under the impression that wedding rings have to be shiny with diamonds and not "masculine" but once we started looking for my engagement ring, I caught him wandering to the men's side a few times, and he's really loving the look of titanium bands!
Mine wears a ring already. He can't wait to put his actual wedding band on in place of it.
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