Post # 1
I just had to share…my Fi is not the traditional romantic. I don’t get flowers, he doesnt’ buy me cards…or anything else for that matter. But I wouldn’t trade his romance for anything. He hand written me 3 poems…including the one he used to propose. He leaves little notes…and the romantic things he says take my breath away. Just to share…I got this little text message this morning 🙂
I’m going to sleep now, but even then I’m thinking about you and when I wake up I’ll be doing the same. I love you now more than I did before I wrote this text and by the time I fall asleep it will be a 100 times more than that. You are the most beautiful person I know and will ever meet. You are everything I’ve ever dreamed of. You have made my dreams come true…you are my Disney World.
Lol, he’s super cheesy and his grammer sucks…but his little notes and text are something I cherish. I even started a blog to keep a record of his texts, lol.
What does your guy do for you?
Post # 3
This is so beautiful. He really loves you.
Have you ever read the book “Five Love Languages”. Well, it describes the 5 different styles of expressing love. Gift giving is only one of them, which your FI is not. Words of affirmation is also one, which your FI is. The book helps a couple identify her love language and his love language, and in this way the couple knows how the other person shows love and how they like to be loved. I bet if you wrote a poem to your FI, he would love it because he’s receiving love the same way he gives it.
By the way, I think it’s so wonderful to having such a thoughtful FI. I smiled while reading your post ’cause it reminded me of my FI. Words of affirmation is his love language too.
Post # 4
Wow that’s really interesting. I think I may pick that up! Thanks!!
Post # 5
that poem is super sweet!
Re: Love languages: my hubs shows his love by doing things for me, but i love when he just spends quality time and talks with me!
it’s interesting to already see the love languages come out so strong just a few weeks into marriage. It’s hard to understand why those things hmake him feel so loved (since they don’t really do it for me). But it also makes it easier for me to understand what makes him happy and just make a habit of doing it, even though it’s not intuitive
Post # 6
Yes he’s romantic. But he’d be the most romantic guy in the world if he’d give me that darn ring soon!!! Arrrrgh!
Post # 7
He can be very romantic and mushy and sentimental.
@bellenga-I think I’m more anxious for your engagement than I was for my own!!!
Post # 8
Oh, I guess I should tell you all the love languages, huh. Lattelove, you mentioned one of them.
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gift giving
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
While I am sure we like all of these. One is your primary love language but you could have a secondary. Your love language means that is how you tend to show love and prefer to receive love. Just be aware of your FI’s love language, though. If you’re gift giving, and he’s words of affirmation. His “love tank” will only feel full when he receives words of affirmation. Anyway…I recommend the book to all couples getting married.
Post # 9
I may have to pick up the book! My FI does all of those, but he’s really big on getting hugs. = ) He’ll send me a random text to say ‘I love you’ and some nights bring home flowers. He always does the dishes, and he likes to watch a movie together on the couch. He’s just amazing. = D
Post # 10
I just bought the book on Amazon for less than $7!
Post # 11
My FI is incredibly romantic (even though he doesn’t think so)!
He will do little things like turn on the playlist that he created for us and dance with me while “They Can’t Take that Away from Me” plays.
Occasionally, he takes off my engagement ring and asks me to marry him again.
Post # 12
MissHelen that is so sweet!
Post # 13
FI sings to me. In fact, we were apart for years, and I always heard him in my head. “You are so beautiful…” Of course, he sings to everything- the dog, his waffles…he’s a happy guy.
Post # 14
Hubby is so not the romantic guy for the most part. He’s more practical. I have gotten flowers for special occasions, a card hidden in the pillowcase when he had to go away for a couple of days, but he’d never show up randomly for no reason with flowers either! While sometimes I do wish he’d be a little more romantic sometimes, I also love him just the way he is. If he was romantic. he may be less practical, and I need someone practical sometimes (what woman doesn’t)! lol When he DOES do something, it’s very well thought out and always manages to surprise me! I think, as for love language, he is maybe the acts of service with physical touch close behind, and I think I’m maybe the opposite, mostly Physical touch with acts of service as a 2nd. We aren’t the lovey dovey mushy people. We don’t say “I love you” to each other often (just once a day before work usually, so that means it generally isnt said on the weekends lol) but our actions speak for us.
Post # 15
That’s sweet. I also like your story, Joeswifey.
My guy is affectionate, but not romantic. He tells me he loves me plenty, and we show each other we care through our daily actions, but it’s on the level of practical and helpful, not romantic.