Post # 1
So just keep in mind that I have written WEDDING not MARRIAGE!! I would hope all our Fiances are excited about our marriages 😀
I was just wondering if anyone elses Fi’s have suprised them by being super excited about the whole wedding planning process?
My FI is your stereotypical alphamale blokie bloke. He goes hunting and riding on the weekends, complains when I take him clothes and furniture shopping etc. So it’s really taking me by suprise how super excited he is! I thought I would be sort of left alone for most of the planning, which to be honest would suit me as I’m a fair control freak lol but he is completely involved in the whole process. He texts me pictures of dresses during the day that he likes, insists on checking up on every new idea I’ve had, has already bookmarked some DIY projects he is undertaking and the other day I came home early I CAUGHT HIM READING A BRIDAL MAGAZINE WHILE WATCHING SHHH DON’T TELL THE BRIDE!! Like whut happened here?
Then on mothers day we went out with his mum, Aunt and cousins for lunch. I don’t really chat much about the wedding since it’s only early and I don’t want people to get sick of it early which is one of the reasons I hover on here. He however brought the conversation back over and over to our wedding and different plans to the point where I had to discuss it with him on the car ride home that I dont want people to get too sick of it too early lol.
I just think it’s hilarious that I completely misjudged him. I really thought he’d throw everything at me and tell me he’ll show up on the day so this has thrown me. Am I alone? (OK, I’m positive I’m alone in the “shh don’t tell the bride” haha.)
This topic was modified 3 years, 3 months ago by nessdawwg.
Post # 2
My FI is this big, shy, football loving guy. Never in a million years did I think he would be so into wedding planning! Our wedding is far away ( 2015) and he loves attending bridal shows with me, looking at wedding stuff on Pinterest, and keeping all the info. we get very organized. I kind of love it except for the moments where he disagrees with an idea! I call him my groomzilla all the time! I think by the time we get to the wedding I will be very thankful he wanted to be a part of all the planning. He would kill me if he ever saw this! Lol
Post # 3
My FI is surprisingly into the details… He wants to know what’s going on, but then acts like he really isn’t that into it when we talk to friends. I’ve pulled him up on it a couple of times.
Recently I was discussing how we are getting to the ceremony/reception venue with a friend. I said that I was going in a family friend’s vintage Citroen (French car) and my FI was getting a lift with his brothers. Low and behold, he announces he’d rather get a chauffered car. So I start looking them up and getting quotes and he again announces he’d rather get a BMW than a Holden. For someone who swore they’d leave it up to me, he sure is having his say!
Post # 4
My husband cared more about the wedding than I did, but I’m not the type of girl that has dreamed about (or even thought much about) weddings. We picked everything out together and planned everything as a team. I ended up doing most of the DIY because I don’t work though.
Post # 5
To answer your main question, No! Actually, I’m not quite sure how/if he could be less excited about the details of the wedding
Post # 6
nessdawwg: My FI has surprised me. He’s not a groomzilla but he’s never been “in to” any wedding but ours! He helped pick the colors and we basically went with what he chose. He wants lots of input on the flowers. I think it’s adorable. Of course he’ll be making the decisions with his suit but I helped him browse pinterest for ideas.
We chose the venue together, our childhood church, that we had picked out before we even go engaged! We’re having a very small wedding then going out to dinner. I found the restaurant but we went to eat there together to see how the food and atmosphere was and he OK’d it!
He has either picked or at least had a say in everything so far except for what I will look like. I really didn’t think he’d care about ANY of the detail much less flowers! lol
Post # 7
Lol mine’s the same too! “Oh no I won’t care; it’s all up to you darling!” Then he’s all “oh you want THAT green… Well that’s not sage darling, that’s more a light grass/vivid olive. I don’t want sage with our shade of cerise…” lol! but he is a graphic designer 🙂
he totally pretends he’s not into it too. But he is. and he picked he bright pink of his tie!
Post # 8
But on the other hand he bends over backwards to add what I want, he just likes to make them perfect 🙂 just the right shade of pink for the flamingos on our place settings! 😀 he’s amazing 🙂
Post # 9
FI actually loves all of the details of the wedding. He’s really excited about how all of it is coming together. At first he would roll his eyes and drag his feet if I wanted to talk shop about the wedding, but now as more concrete plans are being made, he’s getting really, really into it. He loved deciding on a caterer and going to look at venues and now that we are trying to book a DJ, he has taken over. I also overheard him talking to his friend all about the wedding. So far, he’s 100% on board with my vision and everything, so there has been no friction. Any ideas he’s thrown out I’ve excitedly incorporated. (For example: I had loosly tacked the theme of “whimsical tea party” to the wedding–but then FI said, “What if we had a Tim Burton tea party…like if Tim Burton was throwing it–which I very excitedly hopped on board with, as I love all things Tim Burton.) I think FI is involved just the right amount.