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Is your fiance(e)/spouse/partner helping with thank you notes?

posted 1 year ago in Paper
  • poll: Is your fiance(e)/spouse/partner helping with thank you notes?
    No : (11 votes)
    32 %
    Yes, by addressing envelopes : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, by writing some : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, we're going 50-50 : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, by writing to people on his/her side : (15 votes)
    44 %
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    Professor    April 10, 2010   New York, NY

    I love my FI for many things, and right now thank you note writing is chief among them. He's writing approximately half--I offered to let him write only to his people, but he saw through that as his people are 65% of the list.

    So, just a poll: Is your fiance(e)/spouse/partner helping with thank you notes? How are you dividing the work?

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    he offered to do half, but i said i'd do them. i'm unemployed now and he's working all day, so i figure i have tons more free time than him and it would just be silly to make him do it.

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    We sent out our STDs with our holiday cards, and we split those up my side/his side. We'll be doing thank you cards the same way.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    He definitely would if I asked him to, but he has horrible handwriting, and I'd like our guests to be able to READ our thank you notes, lol! He'll definitely sign them all though!

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Like amanda.lynn, my fiance is getting out of it because of his TERRIBLE handwriting. I'm pretty sure I'll be writing all of them (with the exception of maybe his close friends that I don't know too well.) I'm too embarrassed to have his chicken scratch on any more of our thank you notes than necessary! I'll be sure to find other ways he can help me out to make up for the writer's cramp I'm sure I'll develop...

     
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    MightySapphire      

    You didn't have an option for "He wrote 100% of them."  My DH has beautiful handwriting, and I have the handwriting of a four year old.  So all I did was type out what I wanted written on each card, and he wrote it out for me!  AND he addressed all the envelopes.  He's pretty much a godsend, LOL.

     
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    cpgirl2000    April 25, 2010  

    It's all me but I don't really mind.  I'm writting them as we start receiving gifts so it's not like I'm going to be writting them all in one day. 

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    My writing is a lot of better than his, so I will be writing them.  He will sign his name on each of them, so that's kind of "helping" LOL

     
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    Professor    April 10, 2010   New York, NY

    @MightySapphire: good point!

    I hear so many of you on the terrible handwriting part. FI's handwriting is passable when he tries and given our ginourmous guest list, I'm desperate for the help.

    But, he gets out of writing the envelopes because my handwriting is kind of calligraphy-like.

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    My fiance' and I wanted to do it 50/50 but he has awful handwritting! awful! I'm not saying mine is amazing but it is neat and easy to read...

    so now I am torn!

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    Absolutely! They're his gifts too!  We both think it's only right if we split the work on that one (though I totally understand the handwriting concern).

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    My husband has horrible handwriting.  I can barely read it and I don't want to subject others to it!

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    My FI has icky hand-writing, but I'm going to make him address envelopes anyway, because I don't want to do it all by myself.

     
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    ZoeKat    July 2010  

    I'm doing all of it myself because of FI's handwriting. I don't mind.

     
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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    FI's letters individually look worse than mine, but I can't write in a straight line on unruled paper for crap.  So we're each in an equally bad position to be writing notes (and frankly, my handwriting gets AWFUL when I'm writing lots).  I'll kill him if he doesn't split it 50/50 with me.

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I'll probably ask him to write the thank you cards for his family and I'll handle them for my family.  I figure that's the most fair way to split it up.

     
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    Professor    April 10, 2010   New York, NY

    I've loved reading the responses to this (as has FI, over my shoulder). FI had the following suggestion for those with bad handwriting who want (or are wanted) to help. We bought an embosser for our return address and I know other friends have bought stamps or labels. FI suggests those in the bad handwriting club be the ones to apply stamps or labels... though he admits I don't let him do that because he does not take the time to line it up straight!

     
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    NeliBee    April 10, 2010  

    He's doing the thank you notes for his guests and family and I'm writing them for my guests and my family.

     

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