Post # 1
We just found out that my BF got into grad school which starts at the end of May and lasts 3 yrs. It will be about 5 hrs. away and I cannot go with him due to having a house/job here. I am scared that things will not work out, especially because he is not a great planner. Are any of you with guys where you do all the planning? Does this work for your relationship?
Post # 3
@clear.kaleidoscope: Oh God yes! My boyfriend kind of just leaves it all up to me. Or more like he’s kind of slow at it, so I end up just jumping the gun and get things going. I highly suggest you read the post with tips for people working on LDR’s. Though a lot of the posts are over a year old (if I remember correctly) they offer a lot of good tips.
If you don’t mind taking complete control of when to see one another, then try to get his schedule and compare it to yours so that you can make the best out of the situtation. Maybe make time every weekend or every other weekend?? Try coming up with several different ideas, present them to him and see which he’d be more comfortable with and be able to follow through with??
Post # 4
@Silentlove: Thanks for your response. I already compare our schedules because we both have unpredictable schedules working in the health care industry. My bf is definitely slow at planning and this has been an issue I have been dealing with for years. I cannot understand it. However, I am beginning to feel that it is a true sign that he just is not into me enough to ask to see me. We have been dating 4.5 years and he has not changed.