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Mine is a woman at the moment, but I am thinking of switching.
Only thing is I'm a little nervous about switching to a man. It makes me, ummm, err... just the slightest bit uncomfortable. Am I being ridiculous about letting a Mr. examine the whoo-ha?
Just curious how many of you ladies see a man and how many see a woman.
I see a woman. It's just something I feel comfortable with. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man. However, my MIL has always seen a male doctor and would never switch because she likes the doctor. Honestly, I think it's all about your personal preference. Some people are comfortable with a male doctor, others aren't.
I feel more comfortable with a woman because I know she has to go through the same thing.
But I would switch to a man if I had a good rec. from someone..and I had male drs. during fertility treatments and never felt odd about it.
Mine is a man. I thought I would be uncomfortable when I found out he was a man, but when I walked in his office he made me feel very comfortable. We sat down and we spoke. He told me about his education and his job to make me feel comfortable, and he did. He is very professional.
@Treasure43: I completely get the personal comfort level of each person. I guess I was wondering if maybe my uncomfortable feelings would go away as I saw him more, or if it would always be awkward.
Ughhh. Most all of the gyno's in my town are male (they have female NP's but you can't always see them). And to go to my current gyno's office I have to drive 45 minutes. Not very convenient
My current one is a woman, but I've seen a man in the past and he was great. It don't have a preference.
I've seen both men and women over the course of my life. I haven't had an issue with either gender. The only time I felt weird about my doctor was when I would run into him at church. That being said, I think there's some things men don't truly understand because they're men and don't experience the things we do.
I have a female GYN right now, but she's not an OB. I love her, but I almost feel like when it's time to find an OB I may want a man - For some reason I think I'd be more comfortable during labor & delivery with a man calling the shots. Is that weird??
Mine's a woman. I just don't want to go to a man. Not because I don't think he'd be capable, but I like knowing that the woman can relate to some of my issues, lol.
I have a male doctor and it doesn't bug me one bit. He works in a medicine clinic in a hospital, so there are often residents around as well, although usually the resident does not stay for the PAP. His female assistant is always present though when he is examining and doing the PAP smear to protect both me as the patient and him as the doctor.
Doctors are professionals, male or female, and I think it's important to remember that this is a job to them, and not for pleasure. They see a lot of different women! If you want to switch to a male doctor, don't worry too much about it! It's their job!
My mom has gone to men for 30 years, and I go to the same ones (2 that share a practice). I have no problems with it at all, doesn't make me uncomfortable in the least
@AmeliaBedelia: I feel that way too. It's easier for me to know my doc has all the parts I have. Makes me feel more secure in some weird way???
Mine is a man. I didn't really have many options. He's fine, and I only see him once a year so it's one moment of being uncomfortable and then I'm back to normal :) Then again, I would be uncomfortable even it was a woman!
I always asked for female doctors, but one time I was at the hospital (military so the doctors do pretty much everything) for dermatology and I fainted (I was having cramps so bad that I practically fainted from pain) so my doctor (male) wanted to do a vaginal exam to make sure it wasn't anything serious and I didn't think twice about it. He was very kind and it didn't make me feel weird at all. I'd still probably ask for a female, but I think I'm more okay with male doctors now.
I've only had male GYN's, strangely, but I'm most comfortable with the one I have now. Also, awkwardly enough, he's the father of one of my classmates from high school, so all we do is chat about the past and my plans for the future during my, erm, visits. He's been totally professional about everything, and I feel really comfortable speaking with him, as long as he leaves his son out of the conversation haha!
@kperry3: I know, I'm uncomfortable showing my junk to anyone while laying buck-naked on an exam table! lol Stirrups are the worst thing ever.
@Mrs.tobe: Yep I totally agree. Like I said, it feels somewhat irrational. I KNOW that a male doctor would be fine, but hey since I DO get to choose, I choose to go to a woman. I've been going to her since I was 17 and really don't feel the need to change that.
My gyno is a female, but until recently I always just had all the regular down there tests done by my GP who is a man. Not a big deal to me.
When i had my first daughter the OBGYN practice I went to had one male and one female doctor who would alternate seeing you. They were both fine and the male ended up being the one to deliver my baby. He has since retired and now I only see the female, which is kind of a shame as I preferred him a little more that the woman- who will now be delivering my second child.
Mine is a man. When I first went in to see him a couple months into my pregnancy I was not sure about have a male OBGYN but he has cirtificates on the walls from the 70s so I figured he knew what he was doing and decided to give it a try. When he delivered my son he was great. After the delivery I called him my cheerleader. lol. He made me think I was almost done after every push so it was easier for me to keep going. He was amazing and he is definitally going to deliver any kids I have in the future.
Mine's a man. I have no problem with that at all, he's a doctor. We talk about all sorts of private things that wouldn't be any more comfortable if he was a woman. I've seriously never even really thought about this issue before, it doesn't bother me at all.
I have a woman, but I have had both. It doesn't matter with a PAP, i'm always going to leave feeling uncomfortable!
Mine is a guy but virtually all of my friends see women gynos and are always a bit horrified when I tell them mine is a man, so I think you're valid in not wanting to have a man gynocologist...But I have to say, I like my guy and I just feel like drs don't view bodies the way we view them since it's something they see every single day!
I've moved a lot for school, so I've had many different docs. The only one I ever hated was the first was, she was a woman and very judgmental about the fact that I was a sexually active teenager, so I never saw her again. My current doc is a guy, and I like him a lot.
Some people are definitely more comfortable with women, but the men I've seen have been very gentle and respectful (I think because they have to be), whereas some of the women have been great and some have been a little rougher and less professional (because they feel they can be).
I'd just ask a friend for a recommendation, and make an appointment regardless of gender.
I've usually had women, but I've had visits with male gyns before too. There was one in particular I remember liking a lot - he was gentle and very approachable. Then again, I'm pretty sure he was gay, which made me a lot more comfortable. Although for all I know, he affected that manner just to put his lady patients at ease!
I don't think it's weird - there have been studies that show men and women are both more likely to follow the instructions of a male voice than a female voice. But I do think it's a sad statement about the lack of respect for women in positions of authority.
Oh and personal anecdote, I'm training to be an ob/gyn (hence the screen name), and I've done tons of pelvic exams myself. Believe me, in that situation, it is not a vagina. It is not a sexual or intimate thing at all. I'm always very gentle and respectful, and I always keep the patient covered up whenever possible, but on the other end of the table, you are not thinking about the fact that it's a vagina. You're thinking "where's the cervix, come on, where are you, ah there you are. [swab swab]. Okay, fingers in, where's the cervix, found it, okay uterus, ovaries, no masses, sweet. Done. Back to whatever else I was doing." In that situation, it's just another body part.
Female. I just think women are more sympathetic and understanding than men would be. But I also may feel that way because the thought of a male gyno makes me feel uncomfortable. My mom had a male OG/BYN and she loved him. Like mentioned above, it just comes down to your preference.
I have a woman regular gyno but I go to a specialist that is a man. I used to go to a man gyno, it wasn't really horrible. It's awkward whoever is up in your business in my opinion!
I have a male gyno. I've been to several women and one other man, and I prefer male gynos by far--they take my concerns more seriously and really listen to me. They don't discount what I have to say because I am young, and I appreciate that.
@Mrs.tobe: I've been seeing my male OBGYN since I was 20. I couldn't imagine switching.
IMO it's going to be a weird and uncomfortable experience either way, so I go to whoever can see me first in the practice I go to.
I used to see a woman, but when I moved I couldn't get an appointment with a woman so I've seen a man the last 2 years. I actually really like him. He is hilarious and makes me comfortable. I'll be sad when I move again and have to find yet another doc.
I used to go to a man and thought he was great... until I switched to a woman. She is so much more understanding. The male dr used to talk to me like I was a child.
Going through biology courses, I'm learning that they all get taught the same thing. I have a man gyno right now, but have also had women. I think it's more important to click with the person and feel comfortable. I've donated my eggs twice which means I do an extra PAP each year (oh joy) so I really tried out a lot of doctors to find one that will actually listen to me and he turned out to be a man :)
I think a woman can understand your actual issue more, like what a yeast infection actually feels like, but I think a man can be just as good.
Funny story - my bff only uses a woman gyno and we were talking about it at work with our female boss and my bff yells out in aggravation of me using a male "If anyone is going in between my legs I'd want it to be a woman!" which caused a bit of silence and speculation...lol
there's no "other" option--i'm between gynos now since i moved cities last summer and haven't needed to go since i moved. i've had both a man and a woman though in the past; i waaaay prefered the lady doc, but that's bc she was awesome in general, and the mr. i'd seen before was a general internist, not a specialist, so less ummm gentle (tmi??) than the lady-specialist i saw after
eta: my grandfather was an ob/gyn and an amazing, amazing doctor, and like the sweetest human i've ever known, so on principle, i don't think the gender matters...
I have gone to a couple of women, but the doctor I now go to is a man. I thought it might be uncomfortable but I really like him, better that the women! I felt like one of the women I went to was kind of judgmental, and the other was aloof. I agree that it really depends on the doctor's personality more than their sex.
When I was younger, I would say I would prefer a woman doc over a man but I think I have had a man doc and it wasn't that bad.
My current doc is a woman.
i go to a woman. when we are ttc it will be important to me to be in a practice where there will be other women that cover because i really don't want a man to deliver our kids. i know lots of great male drs, i just feel more comfortable with a woman for that area of my body
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