Post # 1
I found that my husband and I have different ideas about the standards of tidiness our home should be in when we have guests. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment and it gets really cramped for space. We only have 1 closet which is filled with our everyday clothes so everything else spills to our main living room. We have boxes of books, Christmas stuff, our vacuum, extra groceries and coats all sitting in our living area. its not completely cluttered but it is an eye sore. We dont even have a kitchen table (we are using a coffee table for now). Our apartment is pretty clean, but I do not keep it visitor ready all the time (ie. a few dirty dishes in the sink sometimes, underwear air drying in the bedroom, makeup on the bathroom counter after getting ready for work in the morning, etc.). Sometimes if we are really in a rush the bed doesn’t get made til later. In my opinion we could be visitor ready with a 15 minute notice.
Husband seems to not care and sometimes while I am out he will bring over friends or his family with our place not ready. He doesn’t think of things like what if the guest needs to use our bathroom and my bras are in there air drying? So even if I’m not there when he brings people over I still get embarrassed about stuff like that. He is just like “they don’t care” while I feel like I’m being judged about how well I keep house. I would also prefer to have my personal things put away before people come. Hopefully things will get naturally tidier when we move into our house and everything has a place.
Just curious about how tidy you bees keep your house. Are you fine with people dropping in or do you have to clean first?
Post # 3
@hspw714: My house is almost never “guest ready”. But I get what you mean, when I first got married (it was the first time I lived in my own apartment away from my parents) it was always “guest ready”. I dunno, I guess I just don’t sweat the small stuff like I used to.
Post # 4
No, but apparently it should be because the in laws just dropped by unannounced and I had wedding shit lying everywhere. I’m 5 days from being married and FI specifically said ‘We will visit you because our house is a mess at the moment’ and I like to clean before we have guests. So now they probably think we live like this all the time :/
Post # 5
Lord no. Not even close. It isn’t dirty, but we LIVE in it, and I don’t see any point in pretending we dont.
On a similar note, the only people that are welcome unexpectedly wouldn’t care in the slightest.
Post # 7
Its hardly ever guest ready. However, I am a pro at the “freak out people are coming clean up in 10 minutes” routine.
Post # 8
Definitely not. FI and I have very different standards when it comes to the home being guest ready. I generally need notice then we both go on a cleaning and tidying spree.
Post # 9
Dear God no! I’m quite a bit like you. On most days I can be ready for visitors within a half hour’s notice but like you, I also air dry my bras and some knickers in the bathroom and sometimes forget to make the bed and wash the dishes when I’m in a hurry. I don’t want any visitors seeing that, not even my closest friends. I know they wouldn’t care or judge me, I’d just feel uncomfortable.
Post # 10
It would definitely take me more than 15 minutes to make my apt guest ready… lol – we really only have time to tidy up on the weekends, maybe the bed gets made on a daily basis by FI before he leaves for work if he has the time – if not, it quickly gets made right before getting into bed just so the covers aren’t all wacky in our sleep.
But, I have other priorities than keeping my house perfectly clean and tidy at all times, and the truth is we haven’t really figured out how to properly organize our stuff, yet. That’s definitely a goal of ours. During the week, though, my goal is to make sure there is a healthy homemade dinner on the table and that I get to go to yoga and that I’ve worked my FT job. Truth is – we don’t live near any of our parents or most of our friends and no one ever stops by unannounced.
Post # 11
Nope, not at all. The main problem is dog hair. I dotn have a problem with dog hair being on things, but I know other people do, so I try to clean it up when people are coming over.
Post # 12
I think our situation is a little different because we have a standard two-level home with all bedrooms upstairs and a fairly large laundry room downstairs.
For folks we’re close with, family, very good friends, the types of folks who’d just drop by, I could just close a couple doors and fold a blanket or 2 from the couch and be guest-ready downstairs, which is where they’d likely go. And I’ve done that on the fly as DH was answering the door or walking up the driveway with people. So yeah, on that level we’re fairly always guest-ready.
If those guests choose to go into the laundry room (which connects to our garage, so sometimes they do) or upstairs, then my house usually looks like a clothes bomb went off 🙂
Post # 13
oh God no. I get lazy though :/
Post # 14
O definitely not! I wish it was, though. I hate the panic at having only 20 minutes or so to get the house guest ready and you have to choose which rooms are most important to tidy up.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
No, but I could get it clean enough to have people over for a game or dinner or something in about 15 minutes. I need a couple of hours to prepare for an overnight guest most of the time.
Post # 16
Honestly I don’t think anybodys house is ever guest ready unless you don’t work and are at home all day. As soon as I get the call about a visitor coming over I go into overdrive vacuming, wiping benches etc, I hate when people drop by without calling first.