Is your husband as sleep deprived as you? *vent*

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I feel for you!

DH sleeps in another room altogether so he can be rested to be functional at work and handle our toddler while I share my room with our 4 weeks old who grunts all night long.

He is still tired because he goes to bed late – I pump milk, give baby a last feeding at 8 and he gives her a bottle at 11 so I can get uninterrupted sleep from 8 to 2… So he goes to bed late, but gets to sleep uninterrupted.  I hate when he says he’s tired. But I try to keep my mouth shut, because he’s really great with us all.

last night, since it’s the weekend, he kept our daughter until 2:30 to give her her second night feeding so I could sleep a bit more… Which was awesome from him.

our daughter has reflux and trouble passing gas, so each feeding is over one hour to try to burp her, and once put down , she keeps grunting all the time. It makes it really difficult for me to rest and keep my sanity!

you said you pump so your dh can give a bottle, but do you have a similar schedule in place that would help you get some shuteye? I would strongly recommend it..

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My husband isnt as sleep deprived as I am, but I wouldnt have it any other way. I sleep in the guest room with our 2 week old while he sleeps in the master from 10 to 6 uninterrupted. He owns his own business and is at work from 6:30-7 or later everyday. Then he comes home and does anything and everything he can to make  our life easier until we go to bed. He makes dinner, changes diapers, does dishes and laundry, cleans up. All so I can have an hour or two to myself.

yeah, im up a few times during the night, but I get to spend all day on the couch with my baby, sneaking in a nap here and there, not on a schedule to be anywhere or do anything except tend to his needs. I really cant find a ton to complaim about. This is what I signed up for when we decided to have a baby. 

I guess I just dont want to share the misery. Im so grateful for everything my dh does for our family, its the least I can do to let him sleep all night. Especially because I know if I asked him, he would be up all night with us no questions asked.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel ya. I have a 10.5 month old, who is the very, very worst sleeper, like, ever in the history of baby sleep. We are still up every 2-3 hours while all my friend’s babies sleep peacefully through the night. Sigh. And there is not a damn thing daddy can do when he wakes up, because he wakes to feed. Baby won’t even take a bottle (I have high lipase in my breastmilk, so he learned to hate it). So yes, I’m very jealous of my husband’s sleep, even though he is as helpful as he possibly could be.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i think thats acceptable though if he is the one getting up early in the morning to go to work all day while you stay home. thats how i see it – i wont be asking my hsband to do night duties as he needs to have a good night sleep to function the next day at work, where as i can nap when the baby is napping.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sunshine09:  I don’t have a baby, but I really think you’d have to be in your shoes to feel that resentment, which seems very real and valid. Yes your husband is working during the day and needs to function, but you can still be very jealous that he gets to sleep through the night. 

I’d be jealous too! And it would make me cranky. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@nearlymarriedlass:  Yeah, it’s different when you experience the exhaustion of the first month or two. Even though DH may be going to work, baby may only be napping in 20-30 minute chunks, and often also only napping when you are holding them… I think it is valid for the OP to be jealous.

You can be glad that your DH is getting enough sleep to function (and be safe) at work, and still be jealous. Hell, I haven’t slept longer than 5 hours (on a good night…and there have only been a handful of those) in the last 10.5 months, I’m glad when DH gets a good night of sleep, but I’m still crazy jealous!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Jess1483:  oh stupid me this is what happens when I only skim the post. I totally agree god I’d be jealous of his sleep!!!! Esp cos I’m a cranky biarch when I don’t get enough sleep. I never though like that but of course a baby may not sleep much when u want them to!!! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My dh is the one with sleep issues, not me.  I can sleep whenever, whereever without much trouble.  Dh can’t even nap during the days (weekends).  He works and has to be up early so I try to mske sure he gets enough sleep.  He can’t sleep in the same room with me and baby right now because the slightest sound the baby makes wakse him up so he lseeps in the all purpose room on the futon while Iget the bed to meslef.  I feel bad for him but at least he gets to sleep a little better.

I don’t get to sleep through the night anymore but I can nap during the day so I am not as tired as dh plus I stay home with the kids while he has to work so he has it a little worse off thsn me.  I try to let him rest when he gets home and on weekends but he still helps out and does anything I ask of him.  

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