(Closed) Is your SO romantic? Does it matter?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is your SO romantic?
    Yes- I love it! : (46 votes)
    34 %
    Yes- But it doesn't matter much to me : (6 votes)
    4 %
    No- I wish he was : (24 votes)
    18 %
    No- It doesn't matter much to me, though : (17 votes)
    12 %
    Sometimes : (44 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4956 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He’s probably more romantic than me. But I’m not really a romance kind of girl.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Mr Rugbee is a hopeless romantic. It really walks the line between romance & cheese but it’s really cute. I’m the one that forgets birthdays & presents on aniverseries!

    Post # 5
    Member
    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He can be when he wants to be – and is every now and then. But neither of us are into the cheesy romantic stuff. It’s just not us. So he does things that other people probably don’t consider romantic but I do. 

    Post # 6
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    2117 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He is πŸ™‚

     

    Last year for Valentine’s day he took me to this restaurant in the city that was at the top of a really tall building looking out over all of DC.

     

    He even looked up the time that the sun would set before scheduling the reservation.

     

    And when he proposed, he surprised me by singing “Marry Me” by Train out overlooking the gorgeous ocean…

     

    *siiigh* πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
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    2420 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MrsWBS:  This.

    I came home from a long day at work to him having already cooked dinner and he said “I was going to run you a bath, but I wasn’t sure what time you were going to be home and I didn’t want it to get cold.”

    Post # 8
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    He tries so hard and it means a lot. I actually feel bad like other posters because I am not always as romantic as he is.

    Post # 9
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    9620 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @HisAngel:   I understand, my DH is the most wonderful man in the world for me but he’s not the most traditionally “romantic” guy.  Loving – yes.  Romantic?  Not so much.  Very occasionally he’ll get me flowers, but in the past year I think it was less than a handful of times he did.  I probably will get some for Valentine’s Day.  Maybe, lol.  πŸ˜‰

    I think “being romantic” is one of those “love language” type of things.  The only way I can think to get the point across would be to remind them that what makes us feel special and loved are those occasional romantic gestures.  I think these things can be learned.   

    Ask him what makes him feel loved and maybe he’ll tell you it’s something like how you cook nice meals for him, or spend time watching sports with him, or whatever that you do that makes him feel special.  And then tell him a sweet card or some spontaneous daisies every once in awhile make you feel special and loved by him in that same way.

    I need to try this strategy out on my DH sometime soon, too, come to think of it.

    Post # 10
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    2450 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    people have different ways of being ‘romantic’ or showing their love.

    if your relationship is great, then he’s probably just showing it in a way that you are not recognizing. keep an eye out.

    maybe doing a chore that is usually your duty, or maybe with words. maybe something as simple as picking up your favorite soda.

     

     

    my husband is very romantic with the resources we have… which means not much money.

    he will surprise me with a candy bar (i have a giant sweet tooth) or he’ll bring home a DVD that i have been wanting to see. lately he started googling how-to guides so he can do my hair for me each night before work. 

    Post # 11
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    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    yesByes very!  When we were getting together she wooed me with endless chocolates and flowers sent to my door.  She’s less romantic now but still does romantic things from time to time like buying me sweets that I like and writing me letters.  The things she does now others probably wouldn’t see as romantiC but its things that she does because she knows me so well now.  Like ordering my favourite take away or letting me watch films that she doesn’t really get. 

    Post # 12
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    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My FI is a remonatic at heart. He always thinks of all the little things. 

    Surprises me with massages, leaves me cute notes, brings fowers… just perfect for me πŸ™‚

    Me… i try but am definitelly less romantic then him.

    Post # 14
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Not romantic in the slightest, and it definitely bothers me.  That’s not to say he doesn’t do really nice things for me like make me dinner and give me a massage. 

    But he makes me dinner every night and I have to ask for the massage.  I pretty much have to make all the reservations for anniversaries and holidays, I ask him to get me flowers and I constantly request that he try to be a little more romantic.

    It’s tough – and I hope he eventually clues in how important it is to me.

    Post # 16
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    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There isn’t one bit of romance in his blood.  I’ve gotten flowers twice in our relationship, no spontanious dinners or deads. If I want a backrub I have to ask for it.  I wouldn’t mind if he somehow absorbed some of the romance gene, but I would rather be with someone who loved me and cared for me than someone who brings me flowers. 

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