Post # 1
Hi Bees! Lately I have been crazy emotional and I think it’s getting the better of me. My SO and I have an amazing realtionship. He is my best friend, confidant and so much more. The only thing I struggle with is his lack of romance. I mean…. it’s non existent. I guess sometimes I just want to feel special. Flowers once in a while, or a dinner that he surprised me with, maybe a back rub without asking. Am I being crazy? Is this something I need to get over?
Post # 3
He’s probably more romantic than me. But I’m not really a romance kind of girl.
Post # 4
Mr Rugbee is a hopeless romantic. It really walks the line between romance & cheese but it’s really cute. I’m the one that forgets birthdays & presents on aniverseries!
Post # 5
He can be when he wants to be – and is every now and then. But neither of us are into the cheesy romantic stuff. It’s just not us. So he does things that other people probably don’t consider romantic but I do.
Post # 6
He is 🙂
Last year for Valentine’s day he took me to this restaurant in the city that was at the top of a really tall building looking out over all of DC.
He even looked up the time that the sun would set before scheduling the reservation.
And when he proposed, he surprised me by singing “Marry Me” by Train out overlooking the gorgeous ocean…
Post # 7
I came home from a long day at work to him having already cooked dinner and he said “I was going to run you a bath, but I wasn’t sure what time you were going to be home and I didn’t want it to get cold.”
Post # 8
He tries so hard and it means a lot. I actually feel bad like other posters because I am not always as romantic as he is.
Post # 9
@HisAngel: I understand, my DH is the most wonderful man in the world for me but he’s not the most traditionally “romantic” guy. Loving – yes. Romantic? Not so much. Very occasionally he’ll get me flowers, but in the past year I think it was less than a handful of times he did. I probably will get some for Valentine’s Day. Maybe, lol. 😉
I think “being romantic” is one of those “love language” type of things. The only way I can think to get the point across would be to remind them that what makes us feel special and loved are those occasional romantic gestures. I think these things can be learned.
Ask him what makes him feel loved and maybe he’ll tell you it’s something like how you cook nice meals for him, or spend time watching sports with him, or whatever that you do that makes him feel special. And then tell him a sweet card or some spontaneous daisies every once in awhile make you feel special and loved by him in that same way.
I need to try this strategy out on my DH sometime soon, too, come to think of it.
Post # 10
people have different ways of being ‘romantic’ or showing their love.
if your relationship is great, then he’s probably just showing it in a way that you are not recognizing. keep an eye out.
maybe doing a chore that is usually your duty, or maybe with words. maybe something as simple as picking up your favorite soda.
my husband is very romantic with the resources we have… which means not much money.
he will surprise me with a candy bar (i have a giant sweet tooth) or he’ll bring home a DVD that i have been wanting to see. lately he started googling how-to guides so he can do my hair for me each night before work.
Post # 11
yesByes very! When we were getting together she wooed me with endless chocolates and flowers sent to my door. She’s less romantic now but still does romantic things from time to time like buying me sweets that I like and writing me letters. The things she does now others probably wouldn’t see as romantiC but its things that she does because she knows me so well now. Like ordering my favourite take away or letting me watch films that she doesn’t really get.
Post # 12
My FI is a remonatic at heart. He always thinks of all the little things.
Surprises me with massages, leaves me cute notes, brings fowers… just perfect for me 🙂
Me… i try but am definitelly less romantic then him.
Post # 13
@Sunfire: You always know just what to say 🙂 Thank you! I always try and be involved in the things that he loves and I think he does the same for me. He is so dedicated to my family which is amazing. He is sitting through 2 hours of a 6 year old’s dance recital this weekend becuase he adores her. That is romantic 🙂
@rosworms: Very true! I feel like these are the types of things I do for him!
Post # 14
Not romantic in the slightest, and it definitely bothers me. That’s not to say he doesn’t do really nice things for me like make me dinner and give me a massage.
But he makes me dinner every night and I have to ask for the massage. I pretty much have to make all the reservations for anniversaries and holidays, I ask him to get me flowers and I constantly request that he try to be a little more romantic.
It’s tough – and I hope he eventually clues in how important it is to me.
Post # 15
@Lulume: Swoon. Jealoussss!!
Post # 16
There isn’t one bit of romance in his blood. I’ve gotten flowers twice in our relationship, no spontanious dinners or deads. If I want a backrub I have to ask for it. I wouldn’t mind if he somehow absorbed some of the romance gene, but I would rather be with someone who loved me and cared for me than someone who brings me flowers.